Alright, I have only lived in the US for 2 years & I just recently moved to Chicago with my Boyfriend of one year...I used to go to a community college, but because I moved I quit college this summer. Now I started looking into colleges, I don't know much about american school so I checked out DeVry and UIC and was ready to apply to UIC until my Boyfriend told me about Columbia. He said he wanted to go to Columbia for Public Relations (which I said I wanted to study) anyway, so today I go check out the school & my Boyfriend calls & I say Babe that is a really nice school I really like their academic statement & their programs are great. So he gets all mad talking about I should have never told you that was my idea my college, you can't go & so on and hung up the phone on me! What kind of s*it is this? Why the **** does he act like that? I mean am I beeing insensitive? I don't get it? Am I wtong for wanting to go to this college? I would be going part time, it's not like I would see him
2006-12-18 10:19:14 · 16 answers · asked by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
NO, your are not being insensitive.Just let him know that if he likes it good if not too bad. How come he want to study the same major that you do.Tell him that and see what he responds.
****Just talk to him and let him know that you really liked the school. That you want to go there because you like the academic statment and programs.Not because you want to make him mad.*** If he does not understand that then he really have a problem and you need to sit down and really need to talked about it,and try to solve it.
2006-12-18 10:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by juanita77008 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things.
First: I believe that Columbia is a better school than DeVry or UIC, and he may want to know that he's going to a better school than you. It might be an ego thing.
Second: It's very possible that he wants some distance from you. I assume he's in his late teens, and at that age, most guys want to have fun with their boys, and they don't want a woman around. There are less questions being asked of them, there are less rules, and, in all honesty, there are a lot of women in college.
If he wants to be away from you, that's fine and normal. If staying with him is more important to you than where you go to college, then go some place else. I think this is a dangerous path to choose, however, because there is a chance, and perhaps a good chance, that it may not work out. If you really want to go to Columbia, then I think it's best to break up, and you can both go there. Give eachother some time apart and don't call eachother when you're there. If you guys are meant to be together then you'll get back together after a while. If you're not, you don't have to regret choosing a different school cause your bf freaked out.
2006-12-18 10:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very childish. In relationships, there is often a "dominant" partner who feels threatened when the other partner succeeds or wants to change. I don't know what else is going on in your relationship, but some partners often act hostile to their partner changing because of thier own insecurites. I would make plans to go to school independtly of your boyfriend.
And word of warning--avoid DeVry or the online University of Phoenix or ITT Tech--they're scams and no American employer will take them seriously. Columbia University in New York is a very tough school to get into, but if you do end up going to New York there are a lot of schools to choose from.
2006-12-18 10:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by ivybear98 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's either worried that you and he will be in each other's company too much, OR, he's worried that you'll do better than him in school! You guys need to have a chat. He doesn't own the school, and like you said you may not see him all the time (especially if you're part-time and he's full-time). Tell him to get over it. Columbia is a great school and if you can get in, then go for it.
2006-12-18 10:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is a little insecure and doesn't want you crowding his up and coming college lifestyle. You should tell this guy to take a hike and go to whatever college you want to go to and that will benefit you not him. Don't worry, there is plenty of nice guys in college to hang out with, party with or even have a serious relationship with that won't act like a little ***** like your now so called boyfriend.
2006-12-18 10:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Skull F'r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that IS kinda weird of him to be like that.
When you moved out there with him I think it was a risk you were taking by knowing that sometimes things are gonna get rough. Now, if you wanna go to that college I think you should. Going to college is really important because, as lame as it may sound-going to college gets you a good job.
If anybody is being insensitive it's him. He has NO right to tell you what college you can and can't go to and he has NO right to raise his voice at you that way.
You need to tell him how you feel-if he blows up, dump him. Any boyfriend who would get mad at their girlfriend like that isn't worth it.
2006-12-18 10:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah he sounds crazy... just to let u know, columbia is a VERY VERY good school, so u have to have great grades to get in. therefore, he should be proud if u can get in, for an international student too!! he sounds very Competitive and or Jealous... did u move all the way here for him?? good luck... make sure get the education and career you Want whether or not he "likes" it.. u should be supporting eachother, not fighting. this is a sign that he might challenge u in future decisions regarding urself later on...good luck
2006-12-18 10:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might have control issues or feel like you are too 'clingy' . . . Either way you should decide FOR YOURSELF what school you want to go to and what you'd like to study there. Hopefully your decision will not be overly based upon being closer to him, as he may not be in the picture in the long run.
Do yourself a favor, get some couples counseling PRONTO!
Even if he's not willing, then go for yourself . . .
2006-12-18 10:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by taowhore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should not have followed your boy friend to Chicago. You have made a commitment that he has not bought into. Going to the same school as he does may be the commitment straw that "broke the camels back". You should have a good meaningful talk with him and be prepared for bad news.
2006-12-18 10:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by fuzhou43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whaaa?? You can't go to the same college as him? It's not like they only allow one person in per year.
Go to whatever college you wnat to go, pick one that will do for you what you need it to do.
His issues are his own - don't make them your own.
Best of luck in college - it was one of many good times in life.
2006-12-18 10:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋