If you know please HELP. Need help ASAP! Homeless!!!! advice desired!!! help help help plz?

Question

I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 17 - turning 18 in 3 months.
He got kicked out of his house and doesn't have any friends that can take him in.

I'm trying to get an apartment so that he can live with me while we both go to school and work. But since he's not 18 yet is there anything we can do to avoid being denied an apartment???

Living in the car is really hard and especially because its FREEZING up here in the midwest....and it especially makes it hard to get looking nice for job interviews. Its only been one night but where are we supposed to go? My mom and sister and brother (one state below us) won't let us stay with them because we're not married yet because he's not 18.

Is there anyway to get around the both people have to be 18 thing to get an apartment?????? Let me know pleeease!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know this sounds stupid or made up but its true so please please give me any advice or knowledge you have because I hate sleeping in the car every night...

Trust me I tried getting a motel/hotel but you're required to be 21 to be able to stay there. Its like a new law that was passed here (Iowa). The only one that allows you to stay at 18 is the Marriot which is $180/night......not possible.

Thank you for those who have answered so far it is really helpful. I'll wait to see if I receive any more answers and then will choose the best answer. Thank you guys so much.

TO INTREPID's ANSWER:: wow. GJ -Intrepid- If you would've looked to see what answer I chose for the best one you would understand that I chose it because that was the right thing to do for MY situation. I decided to stay with him. You aren't in my life so you don't have any clue about what has happened since then...also my question was about how to get an apartment, not whether I should stay with him... GJ! =)

Answer 1

You might try looking for a house that's looking for roommates, and you and your bf can shared a room to split the rent. Try craigslist.com to see if your city or a city near you is listed. Post an ad looking for a place to rent with your boyfriend, or see if there are any listings of roommates looking to fill in one of their available rooms.

Good luck to you and your boy...

Answer 2

First I have to ask, if you are in your car, how is it your able to post a question? If your using a laptop, two words, Pawn Shop, get a little cash and sleep in a hotel room for a night to get yourself cleaned up. I don't know for sure, and I could be giving you the wrong advice, but if you can't get a place since your boyfriend isn't 18, just don't let them know he will be there. Once he turns 18, add him on. You should give a couple places a call, maybe you will find one that will allow this. Most places only worry about if the rent is going to be paid, if you can show them that, then you'll have more of a chance. Good Luck to you!!!

Answer 3

Hey, your situation is not stupid. First, I highly suggest that you contact Child Protective services. Since he is so close to being 18, the State can provide money and resources so he can live in a place of his own. Legally, his parents and/or the state need to provide money so that he has a place to live, if they wont' let him live at home. In fact, it is illegal for parents to throw out a 17 yr old teen. His parents are certainly asking for legal trouble.

Since you are 18, you can get an apartment on your own. He does not need to be 18 to live there, but since he is 17, he can't be on the lease. SO, the point is, he can live there, he just won't be on your lease. Also, the apartment complex will evaluate your income to see if you can afford to live in an apartment, but since he is not on a lease, his financial contributions towards rent won't mean anything to the apartment complex when they evaluate your income.

I know you guys are in a tough situation, and i"m glad you are helping him. You guys just need to contact the appropriate resources before it gets even closer to his Bday so you guys can get financial assistance. I would start with 1-800-4-A-CHILD. It is a really good hotline. They will get you started. In fact, I knwo of one situation where they got the teen in contact with a lawyer about a particular situation...they are pretty useful.

Answer 4

Ask the next landlord if you can put just your name on the lease, as the responsible party. They will need to know your boyfriend's name, since he will be living there, but he doesn't have to be a lessee/signor/responsible party.

If that doesn't work, find the cheapest possible motel, and move in there for three months until your boyfriend is a legal adult. Hotels don't have the same restrictions as apartments about who they can rent to. As long as one of you is 18 and you can pay the bill, you should be okay. Beats freezing to death in the car!

Also, ask around your (male) friends, see if anyone will let him crash with them for month or two.

good luck!

Answer 5

You have a car and money? Keep driving south til it gets warm enough to sleep in the car and wait out the next 3 months until BF turns 18.

By the way, How do you access the internet?

Or you could go back home. That is the best idea.

Answer 6

i really am not trying to be mean here. but you said he got kicked out of his house, so why are you sleeping in a car with him. you did not have to leave your home, so why did you? im sorry for what he is going through, but you put your self in this situation, because you wanted to be with him. that was foolish. if i were you i would go back to your house and have him go to a shelter. here is why, shelters will not except the two of you as a couple.because of the age, it would be easier for him to go alone. i agree that he should contact child protective service and let them know what went on and that he is homeless.they will help him. but you need to go back home, save your money so that when he does turn 18 the two of you can get a place. but please don't get a place together unless he and you have jobs, or before long you will both be on the streets.

Answer 7

You can always consider going to a shelter until you're able to get into an apartment. Try calling 211 from any phone and United Way will give you info on shelters in your area. Just a thought...

Answer 8

I checked Phatstar's "Questions" she had posted in the past.

ONE WEEK AGO she asked us if she should keep seeing this boyfriend. He cheats, watches porn, lies to her, etc., and she complained to us about this. No wonder he got "kicked out of his house". If he is so bad, she should have dropped him then.

Go check for yourself. If this is the same "boyfriend", he is definitely NOT a friend. She should drop him and run for her life.

The answers above are excellent and I respect them, however, she may need a different type of counseling.

Answer 9

if you are close to minneapolis, they have like a zero-tolerance for homelessness, and have very good resources. start with Mary's Place, run by Mary Jo Copeland, and you will be led in the right direction.

Answer 10

Who kicked him out? His parents? They can't legally do that. Call social services right now and have his parents cited. They have no choice, they have to take him back in immediately.