I've done a couple minor things in teh past, and my parents are already incredibly over protective. It's impossible to get them to listen to me, because they always think I'm deceiving them. I don't know how to completely win their trust, and it really bothers me because I've had multiple restrictions put on me because they think i'm lying, or because they think i'm trying to break rules. I just don't know what to do anymore.
2006-12-18 10:11:12 · 14 answers · asked by Que Bonita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, I am a parent myself and have had a similar situation. Truth is what you may have to realize is that you say they are no big deal things but to them must have been. I know every ones parents see things differently and some are more strict.
My only suggestion that I think will be of use to you is to talk to them in the state of mind that you know you are capable of. proving to them you are capable of getting their point. You see, it is a habit for parents to view their kids as just that "kids" Without always realizing that alot of what used to be adolescence is changing.Your mind is more adult every day and can relate more in that type of context than they have been willing to take notice of.
Try being your own devils advocate.Meaning Go up to them, ask them to talk with you.Relay to them what you did as wrong and express to them that you know why they feel that way and why you do not blame them because you know they are only trying to look out for your best interest.Ask them that you realize the error that you have done but wish for another chance to prove that you have learned that lesson but are un able to ever prove this until they give you a little of the trust back to do so.
It certainly cant hurt.Communication is the true bridge between Kids and adult hood. Try showing them that you are trying to build that bridge nice and strong.
Good luck!
2006-12-18 10:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
You said you have done a couple of minor things, I think they were a little more than minor and maybe more than a couple of times. You have broken your parents trust and you are going to have to prove to them that you deserve to have it back. I`m sure your parent are only thinking of you and how much they love you and don`t want you to go down the wrong path in life. HANG IN THERE!!! You will gain their trust back. Also try sitting down and talking to them and tell them how you feel and find out how they feel. COMMUNICATE. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-18 10:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good kid. They will trust you.
Obey their words. Listen them. Respect them. First of all you should trust them and you should understand they are people who have really care about you. They are the people only love you. Most of the parents dedicate their whole life to earn and spend for their kids. So ..now you will be clear about them. Because you will become a parent and also you need to raise trust able kids.
2006-12-18 10:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by mswathi1025 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best approach is to be calm and mature and let them feel a part of your decisions.
For example, "Hey, Mom, just wanted to get your input on this..." or "Dad, I know I made some bad decisions in the past so I'd like to run this by you first..." or "Hey guys, I know you said I can stay out late on Saturday but what does 'late' mean to you? Can we reach a compromise?" or "I feel like a few of my friends make a few bad decisions but most are fine. Which ones do you disagree with?"
YOU may be surprised how much you really have in common.
This worked for me and my parents. They began to trust me SO MUCH, that I could get away with mischevious things again after a couple of years of playing nice. ; )
Just don't get yourself in too much trouble. You'll know in your gut instinct when something or someone isn't right.
2006-12-18 10:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Start confiding in them with no ulterior motive. Treat them like you are trusted and trust them. Wait out the restrictions.
Look them in the eye and answer honestly. Own up to any past misbehavior and change your pattern to be trustworthy.
This is how you earn trust.
Good Luck.
2006-12-18 10:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Coming from experience (my parents were the same way), it takes an annoyingly long period of time to get them to trust you. Just do what they ask you to do when they ask you to do it, if you say you're going to do something, do it, and by no means should you lie at all. If you keep this up for awhile, they'll see that you're responsible, and should begin trusting you.
2006-12-18 10:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Super Whore!!!!!!! 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
oh what a tangled web we wive when first we try to deceive, now you have to prove to them you can be trusted, ask them " what will it take for you to trust me again", and abide by their decision. being pushy is not working now prove your self
2006-12-18 10:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obey the rules they have for you, and do something that will make them trust u
2006-12-18 10:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by IcanHelpyou:) 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's just going to take some time. Trust isn't gained overnight and you will have to prove to them you have changed and are responsible. Good luck!
2006-12-18 10:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by zephyr_0_8 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It takes time to earn trust.
The little stuff counts big time.
2006-12-18 10:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ha! Invisible! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋