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There is this guy that I am friends with. We have been in a casual dating situation. Neither one of us was looking for an attachment. One night he called me and he had a couple of drinks and was upset about some family stuff. He told me he felt I was the only person he could call and he didn't want to call anyone else. He told me he loved me and he wanted to be attached now. I went over there a few days later. We just hung out and talked. I didn't bring up anything about what he said cause of the stuff he had going on. Last week he apologized for not being able to talk to me lately. Last night I got a text from him apologizing for being distant, that his grandmother had died and the funeral was Wednesday. Does he want me to go? We haven't brought up what he said to me that night. Do I take him seriously? I've started having feelings for him that I'm afraid to admit. I can just sit and watch tv with him and its a good time. I've never had that.

Answer 1

They say that when people are drunk you can ask them anything and they'll tell the truth. So maybe when he told you he loved you he was really telling the truth and having had the alcohol in him helped to let him say how he really felt. I think you should say "if there is anything you need, i'm here for you" let him make the first move about asking you to her funeral. let him know your there. he is vulnerable right now so ask him if when hes feeling more up to it if you two could talk about your relationship. let him know how you feel. he might have been embarassed by what he said because he wasnt sure how you really felt so when you didnt say anything, he didnt bring it back up. just be open and honest, he obviously like you and cares about you otherwise he would ask for your company when hes s vulnerable.

Answer 2

This is a complicated situation, but I'm sure that it all can be resolved by talking to him in a few days. I'm sure the death of his grandmother has been hard on him, the best thing you can do is be there for him as a friend. When you feel the time is right, talk to him about the situation between you two and see what he says. Good luck!

Answer 3

Ok, you should talk to him to make sure that everything is ok with him. Then see if he would like to you go with him to the funeral. if he doesn't, don't get upset he has been handling this by himself for this long and he may not need you now. Let him bring up what he said to you. If you have to same feeling try encourageing him to verbalize his emotions. If that doesn't work i would just go right out and say what you feel. I hope i helped..

Answer 4

If you like him, then talk with him. If he's just apologizing, then he's trying to say, "Sorry I couldn't be with you." You should take him really seriously, and if you can just watch TV and have a good time, go and make a move. Ask him if he wants to go out, and then let things go from there.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I would ask him if would liked you to attend the funeral with him. That you are there for him if he needs you. Don't bring up the stuff he said while he was drinking. Keep calm and patient

Answer 6

What are each of your goals in life? Where do you want to be in a couple years? If they match up, why not give it a shot? It's not like you can't call it off if it gets lame. Losing a friend isn't as bad as having some eternal "almost-a-relationship friendship".

Answer 7

Go to the funeral - tell him - not at the funeral - that you want to try dating properly. Exclusive, companionship and romance.

Good Luck.

Take a chance - he has already told you that he wants you to.

Answer 8

Don't take him seriously, because if he meant it he would have said something again. Just be there for him and enjoy the time you have together, if it's meant to happen it will.