for the past few months that we've started living together, my boyfriend has started insulting me as if he wants to strip me of all my self-esteem. lately he tells me that i can't do anything right, that i am so stupid, have not accomplished anything, always breaking things in the apartment, blaming me for things that go wrong in the apartment,parasite,and he needs to punish me to get my act right,and yesterday he backed me into the stove squeezed my breast to hurt me, while my hair got singed by the pilot light, and squeezed my hand really hard because we had an argument about dishes, aside from small bruises my hand was swollen for a little bit,i tried to fight but his grip got harder so i stopped. his reasoning was if i had done the dishes it would have never happened. it sounds so crazy!!! is that we he really believes? i don't understand how anyone can be like that. i don't get it! i don't know what to do!
2006-12-18 09:33:54 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You do know what to do...... he is trying to put you down so much that you have no confidence and will depend on him for everything, before you know it you wont see your family and friends becuase he will stop you, you will be alone with him, the violence will only get worse, please leave him, you are in danger of mental abuse and physical, a bad mix. this man will ruin you, please email me if you need to talk, i know i don't know you but i will help you as much as i can xxxxx
2006-12-18 09:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your bags and leave right away! Things will get worse he will hurt you even more in the future. Yes he will become a wife beater of that there is no doubt, just give him time. Call your parents or a friend and when he is gone get out with thier help and don't look back.
You have been given a very serous wake-up call, he has gone beyond verbal abuse and will continue the verbal abuse and the violence will continue!
I know it may be hard to leave but you really need to get out now while you can, Tomorrow may be to late as they say, it may be a year or two but if you don't leave you will wish you had.
Believe me there are great guys out there waiting to love you but love does not include hitting ever. I have hurt my lover because I play a little rough and or I am clumbsy but never with any intent. If he squeezed your boob hard enough to hurt you it is just the beginning.
Leave him and if you don't then call the police the next time and have a No-contact order placed upon him. I really hope you will not wait for a next time as you never know when they might explode and really hurt you maybe even kill you.
No not him he loves me. Boy I have heard that one many times on Cops or in court (I like to go to local courts sometimes).
Get out girl before christmas it is better to be alone and sad then damaged by someone who raises thier hand to a woman or any "loved one". There is no excuse to hit someone except to defend yourself.
I hope you love yourself enough to get out now. Doing the dishes wow better beat that bit*h now or she wont do them right in the future.
If you do not want to believe me please find a local Womens shelter and go speak with some of those Women they will tell you that this is only the beginning. You are not his property don't let him damage you.
Peace
2006-12-18 09:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kdude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him right away! I had a very abusive b/f before. The first time he hit me I forgave but did not forget. 2ND time I took it again. The 3rd time I was ready and he got scared due to what I had waiting for him. It was always tears from him telling me he was so sorry and didn't understand why he would do it. I looked at my face from the last beating which was totally unrecognizable that I said NO MORE! I left him. I was better off without him and so are you. You are a person who has feeling and nobody needs to be treated like that by anyone. So GET OUT! They have shelters to help you. Good Luck!
2006-12-18 09:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me these are little signs that he is trying to control you. Verbal abuse and physcial abuse is a serious thing that is unacceptable to be treated like that. you need to get some family or friend to help you get out Love is patience, compassion, giving , sharing etc. You are a strong women don't be weak and stay in an abusive relationship. If you do you are telling him to continue, you are telling him I accept this treatment, You are telling him I have no self esteem, You are tell him you deserve this treatment and you don't want to give him these ideas. You need to be happy it is someone out there that will love and respect you without putting a finger on you fat skinny, kid etc no matter what there is love out there for you love don't hurt it feels good if your man don't make you feel good you don't have love. Trials and tribulations are one thing and everyone goes throught theses times but you handle them together not apart. This is not your husband and this could result in dead for one of you I just hope to God and pray it's not you. be strong get some positive help near you like any church, hot line shelters somebody God please bless this lady!
2006-12-18 09:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run to the nearest abuse center,You are going through to much to keep this relationship. It is scary to move on and be by yourself to start over again...but if he is this violent next time it will be you face on the stove...I put up with physical abuse almost a year...he ended almost killing me...and as for the emotional and mental part...it takes a very long time to forget if you ever can. Just save yourself and don't put yourself through any more....Please
2006-12-18 10:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan an escape route with a time to begine and then do it. You are going to be brain washed. It will get worse if you dont. You are not strong enough for this. Or go to the doctor and get some pills so you cant see anything.
2006-12-18 17:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, RUN AWAY! He is abusive and you need to protect yourself. NO ONE deserves that! It doesn't matter if the dishes were done, then he would have found something else to compain about and blame you for. He is a jerk and he will never change. Been there, done that.
2006-12-18 09:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by DEENIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smell an abuser! I'd get out of there as fast as I can if I were you — or, at the very least, get some self-defence training. You shouldn't have to put up with this.
2006-12-18 10:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get out of there. No woman deserves to be put through the hell you've been through. He's already started getting physically abusive. It can only get worse. Take my word for it I've been there. Get Out!!!!
2006-12-18 09:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by poogie2373 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular conclusion . . you do not deserve to be insulted. If you do something wrong, he needs to confront you considerately. Next time he insults you. Say something like this.
Please don't insult me. I am a good person and deserve to be respected. If you have something to say, then tell me intelligently or don't say anything at all.
I did this with my wife and it worked . . . after about 20 times.
2006-12-18 09:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋