My mom is coming in for new years and I wasn't sure if she should stay in my house or at a hotel. She's never met my husband and we've been married for 7 months and me and my mom were estranged before I married him. Also the other problem would be I only have a futon in my extra room. I think it would be very uncomfortable for her to sleep on the futon, and my husband would probably not like to have to sleep on it either. What should I do?
2006-12-18 09:32:35 · 19 answers · asked by Louise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let her decide. Tell her that you will try to make it as comfortable as possible but if decides to stay at a hotel you would completely understand. Tell her you would be more than happy to have her as a guest. If she does stay at a hotel why not rent a room for a couple of nights with your husband and you guys could all enjoy the pool and breakfast and stuff together.
2006-12-18 09:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually, futons are comfortable, just depends on the one you have. If you were estranged and want to make the relationship better, a very good start would be asking her to stay with you.
2006-12-18 17:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask her which she would want. Offer up the futon to her or to pay for a hotel close by your home. If your thinking a hotel better call now things book up fast for the holidays.
2006-12-18 17:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would get rid of the futon because it a guess room any way
and you know people dont like to sleep on them so why dont you go out and buy a bed or a fold down couch and put it in that room
because the cost of a hotel room for your mom you could use that money to either buy a bed or a fold down couch because your mom didn't come to visit you to stay in a hotel or a motel
that is rude.
2006-12-18 17:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by little_bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on why you and your mom were at sorts. If it isn't something real serious why not ask her what she would be more comfortable with and your husband. If mom stays with you guys then you and your husband should sleep on the futon.
2006-12-18 17:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under the circumstances, I would give her the choice. Call her and ask her what would be more comfortable for her. Tell her about the futon, (which can be made more comfortable with a board under the mattress). I'm glad that you have mended fences with mom. Hopefully you, your new hubby and mom will all get along.
2006-12-18 17:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take her to a hotel, and explain to her why. Of course, have her over for dinner and to celebrate the holiday. Obviously you are not very close to her, so I don't think she would expect to stay with you. I would either pay for the hotel or offer to split it with her. If she wasn't even at your wedding, she would probably not be comfortable staying with you anyway. Good luck.
2006-12-18 17:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her at your house hobby can take the futon. Hubbys (and wifves) come and go but moms will always be there.
2006-12-18 17:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you and your mom get along now? are the issues that had you at odds before the wedding reconciled? if not, you would be in for a very difficult time. I would get a hotel room booked for her.. that way if things get difficult, you each have your own space.
2006-12-18 18:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the accommodations you have for her and let her make the choice. If you just put her in a hotel and she expected to stay with you then feelings will be hurt. In my family staying at hotels is unheard of and they get offended if I even mention staying at a hotel.
2006-12-18 17:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋