Is it always up to the guy to make the move?

Question

I have recently been getting over my fear of approaching girls in public. Today, I went up to three different blondes without hesitating (a first for me). I talked to them all for a few minutes and waited for them to let me know if they were interested in me or not, but they didn't. I did not let them know in any way that I wanted to date them and I didn't ask for their numbers. I don't know if I am supposed to ask and let them know I am attracted to them first or wait for them to let me know. If a girl is attracted to a man who approaches her, does she always wait for him to make a move or does she ever make the first move? I need to know.

Answer 1

if you want the number, you gotta man up. Find the power and ask for their digits

Answer 2

I think it doesn't matter who makes the first move. I make the first move with my man and now 9 years later we are married. Most of the time the reason things don't get said in between two people, is fear on both sides. If you really find things are going good with someone you meet and you want to maybe take things further, give her your phone number and tell her to call sometime. That way you put the ball in her court, so to say.The next move will have to be hers if she is interested. That might help to take some of the stress off the situation.

Answer 3

I don't think it always has to be the guy to make the first move but for some girls it is. If they didn't know you were interested then they might have been a little standoffish and not wanting to look like a fool if they tried to make a move and you didn't reciprocate it. Try a little flirt next time but don't make it to obvious or tacky. Just a little smile or a Little suggestion and see what happens. Good luck.

Answer 4

The bulk of the burden of the courtship ritual still falls upon our masculine shoulders. However, there are a few more sexually and socially aggressive women out there who should be both applauded and encouraged.

My advice to you is simple: Until they indicate otherwise, by words or actions, assume that they are interested in you. Be assertive. If you see a woman to whom you are attracted, ask her out. Have a plan. Be confident. Women love a confident man, so long as your confidence does not come across as arrogance. If you take a risk and get shot down then move on to the next woman you fancy.

Answer 5

Girls tend to be the shy, unaproachable type, well that's how I am at least. I would really like to make the first move, but in your case, try finding some confident girls who aren't afraid to let you know they want to go out on a date. Also, try to gain confidence by talking to more girl-friends, that way you know what they think, and you can break the ice easier.

Hope this helps.

Yes

Answer 6

If a guy approach me in the right way. I would make sure he's knows I want his number. But most guys do make the first move.

Answer 7

Some girls will make the first move. I prefer a guy making the first move, but I will make it if I know they are interested.

Answer 8

yeh i know what you mean, but called me old fashioned but thats how it is. Usually guys need to make the first move. I say usually because there are some girls who will move first. I guess it all comes down to being afraid. Who is more scared of being turned down?

Answer 9

In my experience, EVERY girl loves to be complimented. You gotta throw something out there that lets them know you're interested without saying too much right off the batr

Answer 10

hell no remember the number one rule to stop waits the guy to making for on life is for the guy to make the first move


source:vibe magazine