constant whining..can't take it?

Question

My 1 yr. old dd whines all day, no exaggeration. The only thing that keeps her happy is to watch the wiggles. I don't know if it out of frustration or what. All she wants to do is walk. She holds our fingers and we have to walk with her everywhere She has a walker and a seat with wheels(like and exersaucer) that she can walk in but she hates them. I put her at toys where she can stand and she is only happy for a second. My husband and I had to take 10 minute shifts with her because neither of us could take it. If she doesn't get what she wants she has tantrums. I try to ignore her but she works herself up to the point where she pukes. I am hoping when she can walk or crawl she will stop this. I am sure there will be something else to whine about. I can't take it. She is really getting to me. My other dd is trying to entertain her. She is a very challenging baby. Debbie

Answer 1

I think you need a professional to check your child out there could be a simple reason for this behaviour.A happy Mum produces a happy child

Answer 2

She's at an age where she is frustrated. She wants to walk and be independent, but she can't yet be. I would suggest that you be more proactive than reactive to her tantrums. Redirection works best at this age. Encourage her to entertain herself with different and new things. Ignore her when you can, but I understand the vomitting thing would be a concern, as she could endanger herself if she was lying down.
You may also want to pick up some books on strong willed children. My 2nd was/is and yours sounds the same. People who do not have or have not dealt with a true strong willed child will not understand. They will tell you that you are giving in,etc. With a strong willed child, you must approach them differently and how you deal with them is different. I would love to go into detail, but we'd be here ALL day! LOL Pick up some books, do some searches etc and you will learn some very helpful techniques.

Answer 3

She will never quite it because you have taught her it works ! She can get whatever attention she wants by doing it because you ALWAYS respond. She is now in control and will not give it up, that is not human nature. She will only quit when it stops working (which mean the parents have to develop backbone) . . . like the parents put her in her room and refuse to respond . Eventually she will learn but you have let it run quite a while so the turn around will take awhile. (the puking won't hurt her, in might in fact be an adequate unpleasant experience that motivates her to start dropping the tantrums)
Check Dr Phil . . . he probably explains it different, or you can keep letting her run the house until she graduates from high school & gets all the high end items and fashions and new apartment you will have paid for.

Answer 4

Hey mom, relax for a second...yeah it stinks, I had a daughter who was jus like that, some days I felt like I hated her, not exactly motherly love, but I really did..she was all the things you have described...it really sucked.
It sounds to me like you need some away time from her, is there anywhere you can take her so you can get a break?..day care, parents, aunt, whatever...man you gotta get out of there and away from her for some time each day. She clearly is smart, or you would not be going through this, so at least, be thankful for that one...she knows already how to push your buttons...not a slow child at all.
My daughter is 21 now and is a real actress, real, getting paid even though she is still in her las year of college, still headstrong but really a good kid...this will pass, but untill it does, get out of that house for a while each day..good luck to you, your frustration is obvious and you need some down time for yourself, get a babysitter, do what ever you can...calm down, she is just very smart and I bet will be an actress...good luck mom, girls are tough!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Have you tried putting her in a backpack carrier? Maybe she would be happy being "up"

Or maybe a jolly jumper?

Also try taking all her toys away and only giving her 3-4 at a time, this helped with my son's boredom at 8 months. He likes "new" but put a toy away for a few days and next thing it is new again!

This also *may* help:
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T050100.asp

Answer 6

I think that at the age of 1 babies are in need of everything that they want!! I hope that makes sense. Something that helped me with my whiner is I kept him hin his room to whine. Just for a little while until he gets all of his anger out by himself. Then I went to him and asked him what he wanted and he would try to tell me calmly. I'm not saying that this will work for you, but it won't hurt to try just once and see what happens. Since it worked for me, I didn't have to try anything else. So that is all the advice I have. I hope everything works out.

Answer 7

let her watch the Wiggles then, if that keeps her content. Let her whine too, you'll just have to tune it out. A child should learn to conform to you the parents not the other way around. How are you supposed to get anything done with her being as demanding as she is.
Daycare for a few half days is a good idea too.

Answer 8

Put her in a daycare center. She gets to be with other babies, and if you don't like being away for her for a long time, you can usually chose how many days she stays there per week. She plays with other babies, and you get a day off from her.

Answer 9

oh no!!!! try to let her get used to not having that habit by keeping the tv off for about a week and hopefully shell stop the habit. sorry. i hope it works:)

Answer 10

Is there a possibility that she has some type of disorder? Seek a physicians advice.