ok my boyfriend wants me to move with him but he doesnt seem to have a solid foundation or knows how to handle money and he always try to be cheap like he even suggest we make a straw house or live in a van what should i do i have all my stuff at my mom house because i live with her and he wants me to come stay with him
2006-12-18 09:09:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all type of stuff can happen what my biggest fear is being homeless also he sign his self up to alot of clincial reasearch type stuff so pretty much the docs test his body for reasearch so he can get money
2006-12-18 09:10:17 · update #1
i love him and i want to be with him but i want to be sure that we have a place we can call home
2006-12-18 09:12:08 · update #2
It looks as if he just wants you for your money. Why would you want to be with someone that has no future do not move in with him, and my advice to you is to just get reed of him he is mad news you could do better.
2006-12-18 09:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down. You have a right to expect certain things, like some stability and basic things like plumbing. That you need that sort of thing is pretty clear from your question. Let him know that if he wants you to move in with him he's going to have to learn to handle his money better. Let him know that you won't accept living in a straw house or a van.
There's no guarantee that he'll be willing to do these things for you, but life isn't about guarantees.
2006-12-21 20:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by maxdwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me don't do it. You can still spend time with him but don't give up your base. I t doesn't seem like he is ready to take on the resp. of getting a place. If you are ready to move out look at your income you should spend a third of it at most on rent if make sure you could afford it if he can't. Beware that he doesn't suck you in and you get stuck paying for everything. Or make a deal if you have steady long term employment for say 3 months and has deposit money money for furnishings saved then go for it. Just don't commit to something that might leave you stuck.
2006-12-18 09:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by AJC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to this question. You know that it would wrong for you to move in with this guy.
Now ask yourself honestly, is guy worthy? Not just to move in with, but to even date? The way you described him is not the way anyone would describe one they love and respect. Think about the "respect" part. Now take a deep breath... Exhale... The thing about people is there are millions of them out there and if you can always someone new, someone better, someone you can love AND respect!
Good luck!
2006-12-18 09:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by Shane O'Rion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in together is a big deal. You share space and expenses. If he doesn't have control of his money, you are going to be stuck picking up all the slack. DONT DO IT!!!
2006-12-18 09:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by R_H_P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on to a better boyfriend babe. Is the dipshit on drugs or something?
2006-12-18 09:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by sickand tired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't move in with him if he wants to make that kind of commitment, he'd ask you to marry him...otherwise you shouldn't be living together...plus you should really learn grammar your question is annoying to read
2006-12-18 09:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by aerie anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY WITH YOUR MOTHER........HER LIVING SITUATION SEEMS MUCH MORE STABLE!!!! How caan you even consider moving in with him.....you basically answered your own question my dear! Look at it this way......move with him.....HOMELESS!!!!! stay with mom........stability!!!!! I'd stay with mom!!!!
2006-12-18 09:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with your mom if he is not stable what kind of future is that take your time
2006-12-18 09:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by ruru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT! DO NOT MOVE IN WITH HIM!!
He is sooo immature!!
2006-12-18 09:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by deliah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋