2006-12-18 09:04:13 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it. You are too young and immature. Don't do something that you would regret later on. If you have sex, you can become pregnant or catch an STD. Don't screw up your life.
2006-12-18 09:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The love of your life at age 13... while I don't doubt that you are in love with him it is still VERY early to determine if he is the ONLY guy you'll ever be with. I would hope that you love many times over between now and... say age 30. The love of your life will not pressure you to do anything you aren't VERY ready to do. Tell him that you need some more time, this is also a little bit of a test of your relationship because if he doesn't want to give you more time then you will know immediately that he is more interested in his wants and needs than yours and while it will be difficult you will know at that moment he is NOT the love of your life. Please wait to have sex it can seriously complicate relationships and especially for women because we take it so seriously; and for the most part guys don't. When women have sex with a guy it changes the way we feel about him and about ourselves, it doesn't always make things better. Be careful of your heart which is very much in danger of being hurt over and over. Keeping yourself safe and strong (by standing up for your choices) is the MOST important thing in life. Good Luck!!
2006-12-18 09:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by marathonlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, No offense but at 13, you have no idea what "real" love is. Maybe you do have strong feelings for this boy but you are way to young to worry about such things. If you must ask if you should have sex, that should be your first sign that you are not ready to make that commitment and you shouldn't do it. You'll know when your truly ready to give yourself to someone and this is not it. If you do sleep with this boy, I can promise you that you will regret it because 90% of the time, it will end with you having your heart broken. Believe me, I was once you. What you have is special and you shouldn't throw it away so easily. Best of luck to you. Merry Christmas.
P.S. If this boy is serious about you then he will understand that you want to wait. Watch his reaction, if he seems pissed then you know he is only looking to get in your pants and you should dump him immediately.
2006-12-18 09:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by Danelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 13 years old! I had no idea about love or life at 13. Please consider the consequences. What happens if you get pregnant? Or an STD? To be honest, when I was a teenager, I was more worried about my mom finding out. (My mother would have had no problems with going after me, if I even thought about boys!) Good Luck and don't grow up too fast!
2006-12-21 09:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
part of the problem is not just that your way too young to deal with the responsabilities of what could go wrong, but also your boyfriend is the love of your life right now. but the real love of your life is still out there waiting to meet you and you will be giving up something very special to a boy who cant offer you anything but empty promisses if you end up getting pregnant. he cant take care of you and the baby. Just say no for now, it's the right thing to do for alot of reasons
2006-12-18 09:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok. this 1 is 4 u to figure out. so, I'll just leave you to...
wait...
DID YOU SAY YOU ARE 13!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?????????????????
ok, MAJOR red flag going up!!!
you may feel comfortable, but its not yet time.
I mean COME ON!! do you REALLY want to be carrying a baby when ur 14!!! I DON'T THINK SO!!!i mean, WHO DOES???
name 1 person wanting to give birth at 13 and i'll shut up.
just like what i said to the last girl" WHO WANTS TO HAVE SOMEONE KISS THEIR @SS AT AN EARLY AGE!?"
if your boyfriend REALLY loves you, he should respect you and your feelings.
but trust me: DON'T GO APE-CHIT OVER 1 GUY! there's plenty of other fish in the sea!
in a relationship, you should NEVER feel oppressed to do something. otherwise, you needto back off!
if you do have sex, there's no going back (or so i have read)
take your time to grow, and when you hit 16 and you think your ready give it a shot, but remember what i told you.
(oh, just so you know, i'm 12 and don't have much experience, but i have read about it in a book)
2006-12-18 09:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by too_chic_chick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 13 is way too young. I mean you are still a baby. At 13 I don't know if you even know what love is. If he cares about you he won't pressure you and he'll wait until you are ready. But no matter what anyone says you'll know when its time and when it feels right. Don't do it to be "cool" or fit it.
2006-12-18 09:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say no, because you are only 13 you still have your whole life ahead of you so take your time and experience life first and as you get older you will understand more about life and what love really means to you in alot of different ways, so wait and be patience love. life is beautiful.
2006-12-18 09:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Raynette S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll admit, you are a bit too young. But I remember when I had my first boyfriend in grade 8, he wanted to have sex too. Don't do it unless you're truly ready... your virginity is a very special gift, and should be given to someone who you believe truly loves and cares for you. You have to make sure that it is an act of love and affection-- not just a passtime activity.
IAnd if you say no, if he truly loves you, he won't pressure you.
2006-12-18 09:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOAH! the love of your life? you are only thirteen you have a lot of life to live! dont rush instead wait until you get married because then you wont get an STD or get pregnant. Doing "it" wont make him like you any more. it wont do anything, so just wait and make sure you are doing it with the right person. No need to rush it! Just tell him no and if he really loves you he will respect that.
2006-12-18 09:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by qwerty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't, you are way to young to even think of dealing with all the consequences that come with having sex. Be smart! If he is pressuring you he doesn't care for you he just wants sex. Plus the love of your life won't appear until you have graduated from college, moved up the corporate ladder started a fabulous career and bought yourself a house!!
2006-12-18 09:07:28 · answer #11 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋