she seems very, very greedy, I know most toddlers are, to a degree. She bites at the drop of a hat, another child can just come to close and she is ready to bite hit, scratch, for no reason. She is very posessesive of every toy, She eats all of her food, lunch, snack, and or treats very fast and will hurt the other kids and try to take theirs, I have talked to the parents, she claims thats not like her to do these things and says we will work on it, she told me I could spank her, I rarely do, we time out, we talk we do every thing I can think of, I'm at the end of my rope... I have never encountered a child this agressive, greedy and mean, for her to be so young it worries me, any help is apprectiated.
2006-12-18 09:00:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Usually when this kind of behavior cannot be controlled my "normal" methods (outside of spanking)...the child is banned from the daycare. I know it sounds harsh, but the other children should not have to suffer because of this one girl. Neither should you. Let the parents know that you've done everything you could, and if it doesn't stop...they'll have to find another childcare situation for her. Good luck.
2006-12-18 09:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't seem like normal 2 year old behavior to me. I have a 3 year old that had a little trouble with sharing and did bite when she couldn't figure out what to do..but not other kids..she really only bit me and her gramma..and only a couple times before we were able to get it across that was not the way to display anger. I have a friend who's son sounds a LOT like this little girl you are describing...later she found out her "ex" the babys father was hitting and abusing the boy and that he was acting it out on others because it was what he knew. Try talking to the child and act why she thinks its ok to do that maybe? If the problem can't be solved and you don't see any strange marks bruises etc on the child and have no other reason to believe there is abuse then i would say to give the parents a warning that if she can't be controlled she can't go there. Its not fair for the other kids to have to be in fear of her. If you do notice other signs of abuse...you could call child services.
2006-12-18 09:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by kora_tori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a child that is the same way he will be 3 the end of this month he is a total monster and I am feeling the same way you are. I think he has some issues in his home life from what I hear from his sister and mom his father is a yeller and expects alot out of him which could be alot of his problems. This is a really good question as long as I have been doing daycare almost 6 years I have never havd to deal with a child this out of control. I do the timeout system which in this case is not working very well. Good luck I hope you find some answers and you get alittle peace and quiet. Yeah right!
2006-12-18 09:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just "spank her", eh? I am guessing they know there is a problem and are handling it by putting her with you. When you throw her out they will tell others she was a darling until daycare...If time outs do not work(more effective than meeting overt aggression with the same thing) I would advise he parents she has to go before she hurts someone and then follow through...if she has older siblings or if she came from another daycare...hell, I just suspect some sort of abuse; make sure the abuse crown is not nailed to YOUR head. Even if she IS a troubled child she should not be YOUR trouble. There are places for these kids for a reason.
2006-12-18 09:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mod M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, is the child's behavior worth the money and safety and happiness of you and the other children there? I keep an 18 month old boy who is beyond greedy with food to the point where he cries if he sees you eating and won't share with him and tries to scrounge for food on my kid's plates after they are finished eating. But the aggressive behavior you are speaking of is NOT normal. I wouldn't want a child like that in my house, ESPECIALLY since you are responsible for their safety. Unless you absolutely need the income from this child I would give the parents a certain amount of time to work on the issue or tell them they need to find someone else. You've got a reputation and a business to keep up here.
2006-12-18 09:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by october g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is NOT normal behavior for a two year old! I cannot believe the mother just passes this off and says "just spank her". Spanking her will only make her more aggressive, especially since you are not her parent. You need to have a serious sit down talk with the child's parents about them seeking help for this behavior.
2006-12-18 09:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the issue is they're both underage. Neither can make sufficient to help a baby so finally the grandparents are going to could do it. If the daddy's mothers and fathers refuse then you actually could flow to courtroom. It relies upon on interior sight guidelines. If the daddy has to some type of activity then he could pay in spite of the undeniable fact that it particular received't purchase a lot. it truly is unhappy because her mothers and fathers would could improve the youngster because a 16 twelve months previous can't. that is a nasty issue extraordinarily considering that birth control practise is so obtainable & getting that is really undemanding.
2016-11-27 02:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all even if she did give you permission to spank you shoulden't it will come back on you I know. Next, are you shure there is not a problem at home? When she is droped off they may put on a show. You should realy try to look into it and see what is realy going on if you have already talked to her parents. I know it is hard I work at a day care myself, my son is there with me me have a child who is autistic and like to pic with my child he has bitten him 4 times already and hit him with toys alot. But his caretaker just says he has no conchense and for us to look it over. so now I keep my son very very far apart from him.
2006-12-22 05:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by Hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, even with parents permission, you should NOT be spanking the child. Secondly, I DOUBT that the child is any different at home. Sure sounds like the child is taking out her agression that her parents take out on her at daycare. They hit her, say it's okay for you to hit her, she gets angry. Who can blame her?
2006-12-18 10:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by -- 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little boy can get a little jalous and possesive of his toys. He is almost three and quite spoiled, but I havent had any problems like that before.
I know not everyone sits well with the idea, but I do spank him when he needs it. It sounds like this little girl needs a swat or two.
2006-12-26 08:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by colored_gem23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋