ok for christmas eve i have to go to my grandma's house and that's on my dad's side of the family. i have tried to talk out of going and my mom has to go to work cause she is a nurse and so yeah long story short these people are snotty, mean, judgemental, and they talk behind your back and i can't say nothing cause i'm 14!! what should i do!!!??????????
2006-12-18 08:54:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yeah i'm kinda the outcase cause my sister and brother go to this on high for rich kids and next year i'm going not going to that high school and they are being every mean and i'm trying nt the pay attention to it. i told my dad i hate them and he doesn't want to listen
2006-12-18 11:01:45 · update #1
Take a book or cd player or video game with you and ignore them. They'll expect it; you're 14. Their behavior has nothing to do with you unless you let it. This worked for me until I was 18; then I never saw those people again. Hang in there!
2006-12-18 08:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Robin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad and I can relate to you. Everytime we would go to my husbands family(parents) the other sister-in-laws were really snotty to my Sweet Little Girls. I felt terrible and tried so hard to protect my children. Seemed like they were jealous of my children . I dressed them so cute and wanted everyone to enjoy each other. Not the way. I continued to attend Christmas Eve's with my husband and he could notice how they sort of picked us out. I tried to be included and when they would be snotty, I said nothing. I did make sure my children were not exposed to this attitude. They were little and didn't notice. The last time we tried to be included the women were so snotty and my husband said to us , as we were leaving, this is the last year, we will be trying to enjoy Christmas at Ma's house. He noticed and said that was it !! Ask your Father to be aware of what is going on, and to give you support and not to leave you exposed . You are fourteen and it won't be long and you can opt out. Hopefully, your Grandmother treats you good. If there is a problem between your Mother and her in-laws it is sad. Could be they treat you snotty, because they exclude your Mother. Your Father needs to speak up, if he knows and see's they mistreat you. Hopefully, it is not because of the way you act twords them. You can not control what people say behind our backs, but you can tell your Dad, that you are not going this year. If he objects then go and try to do the best you can. Offer to help Grandma. Be kind and try to put on a happy face. I wish you the Best. Merry Christmas,
2006-12-18 17:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Don't leave the room. Then they cannot talk behind your back.
2) You can say something, if you say it right. In a quiet moment, tell your Dad that you feel uncomfortable in the environment. You would love to have a family that makes you feel wanted, and ask for his help. Are your parents divorced? Odds are that his family blames your mom and is taking it out on you.
2006-12-18 16:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go no matter bad mannered they are.
Dressup, put on your best manners, be polite, use all your maturity to act like a grown-up. Answer with please and thank you,excuse yourself when you get up and leave an area.
Do not swear or make rude remarks, Compliment your grandmother on her house, decorating, etc as you stroll through the house admiring anything. Do not be rude or interrupt conversations... Talk with confidence and make conversation with the person you sit beside.
I think their behaviour towards you will improve tremendously.. try it..... it is time to change your strategy..
I always believed ,if you can't beat them, join them. It is only for one night, then you are done.....Play their game, it will be like acting on the stage......
2006-12-18 17:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak up. So what if you're only 14. You obviously know right from wrong and just say to them "I'm glad I'm old enough to not talk about anyone behind their back" and then just walk off. Make them look like fools.
2006-12-18 16:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Pache 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the best of a bad situation. It is only for one night. You can't choose your relatives.
2006-12-18 16:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋