I met someone a few months ago who I thought was adorable. I never thought he would feel the same way. I was completely taken aback when he expressed an interest in me. I was still thinking it would be a one-night stand. I ended up having sex with him twice and really wanted to get to know him better and continue things. He seemed to feel the same- paying a lot of attention to me, adoring me, being really sweet and nice and dear to me. Then, I finally told him that I am a silent carrier for herpes. We used protection and the chance was not big that he would get it, but I was too afraid to tell him. He got very angry at me (rightly so). Now, he's distant when he sees me, but still texts me and recently finally gave me a gift he was planning on giving me before this happened. I have apologized up and down and sideways. I know what I did was wrong - I do not have to be told that. What I want to know is this: can I be forgiven and if so, is there a chance for us, what do I do?
2006-12-18 08:51:02 · 9 answers · asked by annie bananny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone makes mistakes just take this as a lesson learned give him time to cool down but, a lie of any kind is always hard to get over... so just know from now on it is better to be honest and up front from the get go.. Now if he will forgive you is hard for me to answer since I don't know him personally. If you let someone go and they come back it was meant.... God loves you and there is someone out there for you who will accept you and love you the way that God loves you and that is in-spite of. Good luck and God Bless...
2006-12-18 09:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, difficult situation to be sure. We shouldnt harp on the idea that a mistake was made, you have already admitted that. Sounds like the guy is dealing with it pretty well all things considered. Comunication is always key...before during and after the fact. You have laid it all out on the table and he is at least being receptive and may take time. Be honest with your feelings and by all means a little less selfish, its not all about you. You may not get another shot at this, make the best of it.
2006-12-18 09:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by James J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be forgiven only depending on the type of man/boy he is. If he does forgive you then there is a chance that he would want to get back together with you. Otherwise if he doesn't then at the moment it doesn't look like he will forgive you if he hasn't forgiven you. Just give him some time to think all this out. If his feelings for you are stronger than he thinks then he will comeback to you.
2006-12-18 08:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by The Plague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is one thing that unfortunately might not be able to get him back only when he is ready... i understand that embarrasement for the STD and on having... not personally but someone very very close to me... my twin sister... you made a mistake in you life that you can't get rid of... now you must think to your self... do you what to make that mistake for them b/c you don't want to feel embassesed... Or are you wanting the other to catch it and explain afterwards... you ALWAYS have to tell the other lover b/c to tell them nothing is to help them make there mistake for them...
The only advice i give is to lay low and let him come back to you b/c there is a mistrust factor... Men don't like to not trust someone they want to be with. If he never comes back you should understand that it will happen and b/c you have this disorder the other is Entitle to a up front knowledge of the information.
2006-12-18 09:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by nr_patton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not up to anyone here to say if you can be forgiven. That is something only he can decide. Is it possible, sure. But it's up to him. Right now, I wouldn't do anything. Let things be. Give him time to decide if he can ever trust you again. That's a pretty big breech of trust for someone to get over.
2006-12-18 09:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll need to ask him . . .you should have told him before you ended up in the sack . . .it may not be an issue of forgiving but of not wanting to be with someone who is a carrier of Herpes . .
2006-12-18 08:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u made a mistake! but its okay nevermind who doesnt! ask him if he can forgive ya and if he can just forget about it and carry on wid ur lives or not...just not to have lost hope! confront him and ask him
2006-12-18 08:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um you should always tell your partner before you get it on that you have herpes. I would never forgive lies like that
2006-12-18 08:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you did was so wrong you should have told him before you had sex.
2006-12-18 08:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋