I have a good friend who my girlfriend had a crush on before me. Should I get him to help me and see if she'll do anything with him?
There will be no hard feeling between me and him afterwards, I just want to see if she'll take the trap and sleep with him. Is this wrong or a good idea?
My plan is to get her worked up and then make a an excuse where I have to go somewhere. And then have my buddy take her home where I''ll be hidding in her room. And if anything happens I'll catch it in the act. Wrong or does anybody have any better ideas?
Thanks
2006-12-18 08:46:45 · 34 answers · asked by deppressionsucks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont get to see her everyday. I get to see her every month or so being in the military. i do trust her and love her i just want to be sure.
2006-12-18 08:57:34 · update #1
I dont get to see her everyday. I get to see her every month or so being in the military. i do trust her and love her i just want to be sure.
2006-12-18 08:57:35 · update #2
I don't think you should do this. I know it's tempting, especially if you have reason to believe that she could be unfaithful. If you truly love and care about her however, the best thing to do is let it go and accept that she loves you and her feelings for your friend have changed.
If you're experiencing any problems with her that are causing you to doubt her commitment to the relationship you should probably confront her about this. Testing her this way could have a messy outcome---especially if she is devoted to you and the union you both share.
Good luck.
2006-12-18 08:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a terrible idea! Do you love this girl? Has she given you any reason for not trusting her? How long have you been dating? Just because she had a crush on your friend before you does not mean that she would jump into bed with him now that she is with YOU. Have you thought that maybe a crush does not equal a relationship like the one you two have? If she wanted him then maybe she would have already been with him. As for your "good" friend, what kind of friend would go a long with this disaster waiting to happen? Think about it, he may be wanting an excuse to sleep with her or wants to break the two of you up for his own selfish reasons and you are going to hand her over to him on a silver platter. I wouldn't trust your friend.
Honestly, it sounds like you are an insecure person. I would suggest that you work on your insecurities first b/c you will never trust anyone if you don't have the confidence in yourself from the beginning. It's really all about the way you feel inside and the way you handle yourself that will make a girl/woman want to be with you an no one else. Women want a strong, confident man who can make them feel secure.
If you don't love her or trust her then break up with her and find someone new to date. It sounds like you don't love her enough to respect her and that is a whole other story. Don't do it b/c you may regret it afterwards.
2006-12-18 08:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by benjiandremy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyday you are with your girlfriend and she is not cheating on you she is passing this test. If you make her think you are breaking up with her and then trick her you will end up making her leave you anyway. If you don't trust her then you need to tell her and figure out how to deal with this issue as a team. Tricking her into doing something is only going to create a lack of trust on her part. Ultimately, if you cannot trust her you should get out of the relationship. Just remember that when you start dating someone else that these issues may come up again. Then you will have to really face where the problem lies-with you.
2006-12-18 08:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by CriticalThinkX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullshit! Dude, put urself in her shoes for a change. Why is it always about you, you, you, you, you and you? So if she pisses you off and her best friend comes along and seduces you... u cant control ur urge and tries to bed her best friend.. then... WHAM! She catches you!
Now tell me, how would you feel? Great huh?
Its a human relationship here... not a faulty OS System that needs troubleshooting. You don't run trial tests to see where the fault is.
Just THRASH things out with her if you must. If you love her then trust her. Even if she eventuallys cheats on you... u gotta take the risk.
The stake is your love and if you cant bear to part with it... then keep ur love to urself, don't ever get into a relationship.
2006-12-20 19:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Chips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...that's pretty mean. Just because she had a crush on him doesn't mean she still does. Sounds to me like you are a lil insecure in your relationship. If you cared about her at all this wouldn't even be an issue. She has probably had more than one crush in her life. Does that mean you are going to have every guy she has ever had a crush on do this for you just so you can feel better? Think about it hun.
2006-12-18 08:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by littleredd1003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very bad idea. If you don't trust her, you obviously don't have a very good relationship. If she has cheated in the past she will most likely do it again, especially if she likes the guy. Break up with her, you can do better.
2006-12-18 08:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by funbobbi22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really bad idea that will lead to nothing but trouble.
You should not test your girlfriend.
If you want a happy and healthy relationship, you should believe in your partners goodness and truth until it's proven otherwise, without your setting a trap.
2006-12-18 08:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first if you are going to do something that extreme and low you need top get out of the relationship because there is no trust , Leave it be if she is going to cheat on you It wouldn't be with your best friend. Surely she can't be that stupid.
2006-12-18 08:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by Purplepassion9126 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that's a bit cruel...but if she's not one to be trusted, I say go for it. If she's never done anything to make you feel like you can't trust her, then you have no logical reason to. And if she finds out you set her up afterwards, ohh boy you talk about trouble! You will pay dearly, my good man!!
Make sure that if you do it...you catch her AFTER she's slept with him, if she does. Trust me.
2006-12-18 08:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this isnt the most brilliant plan. your just asking for trouble, what if she doesnt take the bait then she finds out later what you planned then you lose her. And you hiding in the room is just weird. you should just forgot about this little plan of your and has she done anything that would make you think she would cheat on you.
2006-12-18 08:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by 123456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋