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2006-12-18 08:34:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
i konw he wants a baby so bad what if he tries to get me pregnant on purpose but he already knows im not ready
2006-12-18 08:50:06 · update #1
Go on the pill.
Don't ever rely on the man. Always protect yourself. Even if he is your fiance.
2006-12-18 08:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by ticktock 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well.. if you are engaged.. why should he?? In a way I don't blame him as I also hate wearing them, and would hope my partner is STD free.. as for getting a woman pregnant.. I am well read and have developed the skills necesary so that i don't need ot use a condom and I won't get the girl pregnant.. it works for me.. oral usually plays a big part.. it's a matter of working around "issues" there's always a happy medium in love..
You should both be tested STD safe by now if you are engaged, so STD's shouldn't be an issue.. and if you don't want ot fall pregnant.. then either play it safe or get him to wear a condom at the end.. I mean he has to be fair if neither of you are ready for a child yet.. I'm sure he would understand if you compromised..
Don't take the pill just for his sake.. if will change your hormone levels and your body may go pearshaped.. I'm not a fan of any drug or chemical taken regularly.. so yeah.. condoms are the go or for him to develop his "skills" .. lol..
might be fun trying..
Otherwise.. I liked Becky's advice (see above).. tell him you dont want a kid out of wedlock.. so no sex till you're married.. he'll be home that night with a 100 pack!!
2006-12-18 08:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult question. There's always the risk of STDs, unless you know absolutely that he has never been with another woman. And that's a pretty big assumption to make.
If he doesn't want to wear condoms, ask if he's going to baby sit while you go to work....
Seriously, there are alternate systems which you can use, such a female condoms, IUDs, or the pill, but the problems with these are a) female condoms are expensive, IUDs can create problems with infection, scarring, etc and result in infertility, and the pill can have adverse hormonal effects.
The good news is that there is a new reversible vasectomy procedure that allows men to have their ducts plugged, and later, when they want to have children, they can be unplugged. So if he is the one who won't use a protective device, it seems only fair that he should be the one to take this step.
It still doesn't address the STD problem, but that's something you have to work out for yourself.
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-18 08:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could use birth control or a female condom. If you are afraid to get pregnant did you try talking to him about it? He's probably just thinking about how good it feels to him and not nothing else. You could throw the ultimatum and say no condom, no sex. Basically you need to tell him how this is bothering. I'm not talking about arguing about it. Talk way before your going to have sex. Like at lunch or something, if you talk and your making out he'll think your playing some kind of game. Hope this helps.
2006-12-18 08:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Antione E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, apparently telling him to "wait" until your Married is out of the question, eh? (Since he has been "getting" it all along now :)...
So, go on the Pill, (but you have to wait a week or more for that to "kick in")...Or, stop having sex until he agrees to use one.
Be advised... If your using ANY type of Antibiotics...That will render your "pill" useless!!!
I've told many women about this, and they simply ignored my advice, and they got pregnant because they simply didnt believe me!
Also, condoms have a great failure rate! (Yes, they will break when you least expect it, and then you will be "gifted" with a bundle of joy possibly 9 months later :)
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-12-18 08:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about getting pregnant, then you should use another method of birth control, may be the pill. If you are concerned about getting a disease, well, you are engaged and supposed to be getting married some time soon. If you don't trust he's clear, how do you intend to marry him? Go do the tests, both of you.
2006-12-18 08:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know that no condom=no sex, period!
He doesn't understand that you are the one that will end up taking care of a child, not him.
A condom is NOT 100% effective, so I would consider either the pill or a female condom w/spermicide.
Pls check with your doctor for more information.
2006-12-18 09:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r not on it already...get on the pill! Then tell him that u should both take an STD test and if they come back clean...then it should be ok for you to go without condoms...esp considering that u r engaged. Good Luck.
2006-12-18 08:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are that far in your relationship that you can call him your fiance, that must mean you trust him to stay true to you. If you have both been tested and are clean and you can trust him, this shouldn't be an issue. If you can't trust him without a condom, why would you trust him enough to marry him?
2006-12-18 08:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a piece of cake. The woman always has the trump card in any negotiations. If he says he ain't gonna use the rain coat....then hold out on him until he sees the error of his ways. Make him understand that if he's gonna play with you... YOU are going to make the rules!!!!
2006-12-18 09:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mark H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should defaniatly get on some other form of birth control such as an pill and etc.. now they even have the viginia rings for the girls to wear so he won't have to wear a condom but look in to it
2006-12-18 08:36:31 · answer #11 · answered by tx_chick89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋