After I had sex with the guy, he told me that he didn't know what to do with me except fall in love. He had already got what he wanted, so why did he say that??? I'm not looking to fall for the guy...if i do, then i do, but i'm not trying...i told him straight up that i just wanted a friend with benefits.
2006-12-18 08:33:38 · 23 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to talk to him and make sure that he understands that you both are just friends with benefits and not something more. Tell him that again and also let him know that if feelings do develop then he will be the first to know, but that you are not looking for anything more.
2006-12-18 08:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by shell7024 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could mean one of two things: Either you pleased him really well and he wants more, or he already had a lot of feelings for you and this just helped bring it out. It's good that you were honest with him, not many people are. Make sure that a relationship isn't what he wants if you don't, that way you don't hurt him in the long run.
2006-12-18 16:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole "friends with benefits" works for a while. You have to know how to have that type of relationship. There are rules to those types of "relationships" and make sure that you sick to those rules. I know that you have said that you just want to be friends BUT there lies the problem. Guys like the fact that they have that chase. He hasn't "conquered" you so he is going to be attracted to you even more because you have set boundaries. Good job...I am proud that there are women out there that are willing to be "guys".
2006-12-18 16:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by LaReyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, here's the thing.. if you are looking for just a friends with benefit it kind of already sounds like it might not be as a platonic relationshp as you had intended so get out now.
however, you say "if i fall for him i do" so it kind of seems like you might be in this in a really casual way that later on down the road if you guys feel right you'd be okay with that too..
so best thing to do is talk to him again about your rules.. "friends with benefits" and basically weight it out to see if he's already past that point and looking to get hurt if he continues or not.
2006-12-18 16:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I have to say is one day when it happens to you, you will know how he feels and realize what you are doing can be hurtful. Most friends with benefits do not last because one person gets attached. Maybe he is becomming attached and if you have no intentions of letting that happen they the most humane thing to do is cut all ties now and let him go. Yuo will only hurt him if you keep stringing this on
2006-12-18 16:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by xxkittenluvxx143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently he wants to be more than just friends. There is nothing you can do. You did the right thing by telling him that all you wanted was friends with benefits, although that might get messy if he is indeed really in to you.
2006-12-18 16:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean anything. Guys will say and do just about anything to get it and shortly after they get it, some guys (though very few ) get caught up in the "moment" like we women do and say all sorts of things. Think of it as "jail talk", men are dead in love when they are in jail, but when they get out, it's another story entirely. Let it go.
2006-12-18 16:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thought it was good and he is trying to make sure he can get it again, or he just might be telling you that he wants more than sex, you have to step back and feel him out, don't fall for the okie doke!
2006-12-18 16:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this means that he really likes you and that he thinks he's fallen for you. if you don't want anything serious than tell him once more that all you want is someone with benefits and nothing real serious. i think that all you have to do with this guy is to remind him what you really want out of you're relationship with him.
2006-12-18 16:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he means he really liked what you did or he liked you before but now that you've had sex he loves you, if u don't really want anything serious, explain it to him, give him some reasons and get the point into his head
2006-12-18 16:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by katykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋