My husband just recently left me-saying I am unhealthy and need to get help. I have been crying for over a month now, and cant seem to bring myself back up. A friend of mine told me to go to co-dependancy.com and see if i could answer the quiz. I went, and answered yes to 21 out of 22. I dont know where to go from here. I have looked for a support group in my are, and found none. I think I am depressed, and just want to get better. I have two children who need me, and I am falling apart. What is the next step, what have other people done to help get better? I want to feel better about myself and stop blaming myself for everything that happens.
2006-12-18 08:30:15 · 7 answers · asked by Barbara A 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Start off with self-help. Get a copy of the book "Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself"
by Melody Beattie.
Melody Beattie has a number of helpful books on the topic.
2006-12-18 09:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help. Forget online support groups. You need to see a doctor, probably get some medication so you can function and then get into counseling with a therapist. That is the ONLY way you are going to get better and be able to be a mother to your children. If you don't get help soon...there is a good chance that your husband may sue for custody of your children.
GET UP AND GET HELP.
2006-12-18 08:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The definition of codependent is - psychologically influenced or controlled by, reliant on, or needing another person who is addicted to alcohol, drugs, etc. So, no, she's not "codependent." A lot of people like to feel needed, it's not necessarily a bad thing. It's possible that you're the one with the issues - not her.
2016-05-23 05:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the Yellow Pages and see if there is a local support group... Or, contact Family Services and see if they can help you out...(A lot of times they will direct you to free counceling and help you in your times of need).
Also, if you dont attend a Church, NOW is the best time to START! They are the most uplifting people in the World and will help you in every way you can think of...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-12-18 08:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its good that you are aware that u have a problem and the next step is to seek treatment for your problem. Join Alnon and when you are there they can refer you to the best therapist in town. be strong and put effort in your recovery, because this things work when you are an active participant.
2006-12-18 09:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nayi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try seeing a therapist. You need to figure out why you are so co-dependent. Good Luck.
2006-12-18 08:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alanon?
2006-12-18 09:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋