My fiance and I are in love with his nephew. Hes an amazing 4 year old boy, who doesn't get the attention he deserves. We watch him every weekend and his mom cares more about her boyfriend than her son. And here she is, pregnant again. I just know he will be left in the dark when that baby comes. The father is in prison, and will be for who knows how much longer. I want custody of him and i don't know how to go about that. I want him to have the attention and love he deserves. What do i do???
2006-12-18 08:27:30 · 9 answers · asked by MrsJLH 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Unless you can prove that the mother is unfit to be a mother, you can not just petition for custody. It's quite a process, really. If you truly believe that his mother is unfit, then you should contact your local social service division and start an investigation. It will be a long process, but well worth it if you truly feel he is neglected. But don't start the process if you just "want" to have custody of him. You could ruin this woman's life by starting this process and that isn't fair either. Be sure you are thinking of your nephew.
In the meantime, try to spend more time with him. You already care for him on the weekends which is great. Maybe try to get him a night or two as well and give him as much attention as you can. Seems your fiance and you are a really great auntie and uncle!
2006-12-18 08:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a tough call. To get legal custody you would have to put this child through a lot. You would need to turn the childs mother into child protective services, have her investigated, if she was found unfit the child would go to a foster home until a temporary guardian, you, could be appointed....i believe that is how that works. But if you werent found fit enough either, you might not get him and that poor child would be in foster homes. You really need to re consider this i think. Can you talk with the mother about the little boy staying with you guys for a little while to help her out? Maybe this little boy could just have more visits with you. Is his mom abusive? If she is then with no doubt, call someone! I wish you the best, but for now, just be there for the little boy any chance you can. Take him extra if the mom allows. Good luck
2006-12-18 08:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can get a good lawyer and keep that going but even if you did win, think about this would he really love you and your fiance like what he would his own mom and dad? I know this seems harsh but doing something like this can really damage a child permanently. Again if you think the mother will just leave the picture, she'll probably fight harder than ever to not loose her son. Also his father will probably not be happy about it either if/when he comes out of jail. Although it sounds like you and your fiance really do love him, if you're willing to chance all of this i wish the best of possible luck to you.
2006-12-18 08:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Rikki-Bobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truley does not care about him, you may be able to convince her to sign over her rights to him. That way, you do not need to go through social services, and you can legally adopt him without all that fuss. If you think she would fight you, you may end up hurting him more by putting him into the foster care system and you might never be able to get him. Be careful, as the court system does not have as much empathy as they should.
Good luck.
Perhaps you could work out a visitation schedule with the Mom? Maybe she signs you as legal guardian and he lives with you and visits her? That way you can enroll him in sports and represent him as parent at his school functions. Just an idea.
2006-12-18 09:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Soon2BMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 you in all probability can no longer get custody of him. that's accessible, yet your nonetheless a newborn your self so it may be puzzling. you may desire to in all probability attempt to discover an grownup which you would be able to have faith and ask them what to do...is there absolutely everyone else interior the family individuals? i comprehend it may harm you to no longer see him anymore if he replaced into taken faraway from his mum and dad, yet on an analogous time you are able to desire to think of approximately his well-being and not what is going to make you happy. If he's properly being abused he desires help from the right authorties whether it potential you won't see him for a rapid on an analogous time as.
2016-10-05 11:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by riesgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful!! Even if you call child protective services they may just keep the angel in foster care. The system can be very screwed up when it comes to children. Why dont you ask the mother to keep him longer? And gradually work on her?
2006-12-18 08:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by shikk79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good lawyer and be prepared for a painful and expensive fight. It's good that you love him like you do. However in the end, if you lose you might lose what time you currently have with him forever. No matter how you see things, the courts don't see as clearly.
2006-12-18 08:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a local dhs department. if u honestly think that he is being neglected they can do an investigation and if it turns out that they agree about the mother is too neglectful to her son, then they will take him away. and u can apply for the adoption. i dont know all the information u need. just call the local department of human services
2006-12-18 08:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont know you are if you are much diffrent from the mother but if yyou care that much i think you should go ahead and sign your papers
2006-12-18 08:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by lamargilo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋