I can think of only one time in our whole relationship of a year and half that I initiated sex and actually got it.He will always be too tired,or move me off him, or ask me if that's the only thing I can think about.He will actually tell me that I waited too late,like it is my fault.After a while,I just stopped initiating sex and waited for him.That got to me more and more,but I couldnt ever say no to him because I long for that connection with him.I love him. The sex,when we have it,is great.I wonder if I want it too much?Something wrong with me if I want sex everyday?Well anyways,I then talked to him about feeling like he controled when we has sex, and he said that I dont even try anymore.Why would I?I used to climb ontop of him,and he would tell me he wasnt into it.Then there were times he would stop me, and then later that night start it..and of course I felt like he did that just for control!What should I do?I have cried so many times over this,its getting to be too much.
2006-12-18 08:25:51 · 13 answers · asked by LadyAlysse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say try again. And if he doesn't go for it them but then tries to initiate it later tell him you aren't in the mood now. I know it'll be hard but if you want to gain some control you have to prove that you want it and work for it. And there is nothing wrong with you for having a healthy sexual appetite.
Good luck.
2006-12-18 08:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly he had me thinking he was Truly sincere. But I agree with you why cant ya'll be together. I mean you could still have a relationship without sex. I think honestly he has another reason change facebook status?? That's were he really got me thinking ok something else is going on here. I think you need to Talk to him and tell him you can better your self's live for the lord together and not have sex til marriage but breaking up and pretending not to be together what does that do ? Who does that help? I think you need to Talk to him about this not in a letter.
2016-05-23 05:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm seems liek it's deeper than sex like maybe in a previous relationship he wasn't the big honcho and now he wants to b so his heart won't break if u guys break it off,dunno guessing by a long shot but b careful and love him ot the point that u can get yrself back,good luck
2006-12-18 08:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by 321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a control freak! XD (You shouldn't be having sex if you're not married, but that's beside the point) You should not give it to him next time he asks and then when you want to do it, he might say yes.
2006-12-19 05:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in order for you to get what you want you have to learn to tell him no.......its not a control thing....its suppose to be a compromise between both of you....so learn to say and he will think twice about telling you no if he really wants it....plus remind him you say no i say no..and you are a healthy young woman with a sexual need nothing is wrong with you
2006-12-18 08:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ana P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plan a romantic dinner night that involves dinner, you, the bedroom, and some sexy lingerie...and if he can't get the hint from that, dump his ***...cause he's an idiot who doesn't deserve you...
2006-12-22 07:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Terry C. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men don't change. beleive me I know I am a guy. Just do what is right for you and get you a guy who is gonna take care of your needs
2006-12-18 10:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by SuperSoldierGIJOE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he gay? or is he getting it from somewhere else? move on, find yourself someone who can please you. just remember, if you marry this guy you will have to put up with this for the next 30 years.
2006-12-18 08:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by yesssssssss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women are in control of sex...we say when it happens...and men finish it.
2006-12-18 08:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave him. a relationship should be loving not one sided and egotistical. this is not love it's convience. love is love not hurt oF ANY KIND
2006-12-18 08:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by prettysexycalves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋