Ok, I broke up with my boyfriend of 10 years a month ago. Since then I have been dating a really good guy. Last week I missed the jerk and while I went on business trip I took the jerk with me. Things were great, except he tried to knock me up. I didn't go for it though. Anyway, the last week he stayed at the house and all was cool. Until today. I asked him what he was gonna get for our daughter for xmas. He told me that he didn't have the money and I had it covered. How do I hurt him as bad as he just hurt me?
2006-12-18 08:23:36 · 27 answers · asked by Sunshine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok the jerk is my ex. When we break up he is a jerk but when we are together he can be extremely sweet. But it doesn't do anything he doesn't feel like doing. Thats the problem. He doesn't feel like he has any obligations to our daughter. He does what he wants and he sets extreme limitations.
2006-12-18 08:28:53 · update #1
I have been on a couple dates with the other guy but nothing serious to where I should feel guilty about seeing other people nor should he.
2006-12-18 08:29:51 · update #2
My daughter will have an amazing xmas as it. She doesn't need anything else. It's just the thought. That he didn't go out of his way to get something for his daughter.
2006-12-18 08:33:27 · update #3
Do it without him, I have a nine year old son, and he has not seen his biological farther since he was three. When I told him I was pregnant he told me that that was my baby and not his, because he didn't want anymore kids. So I told him that was fine that I would take care of my baby by any means necessary, I played the game with him he would come around and play Daddy as long as I was sleeping with him.
When my son turned three he came to my house spent the night and the next morning refused to take me to work to make the money that was doing what he refused to do, which was take care of my baby. That morning I told him to get out and he beat me up... well I prayed about it, and every since that day I decided enough was enough that I was going to take care of my baby on my own without him, because if there was nothing he could teach my son about being a man he did not need to be around.
6 months later I met my now husband of 6 years and he has been a farther to my son and my baby has been taken care of and has never went without! So God Bless and good luck!
2006-12-18 08:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma darling, wish only good things for him because wishing for bad only comes back to you.
You have a really good guy? where is he why didn't you take him on your trip, personally I wouldn't be impressed if I were the really good guy.
You are confusing the relationship by letting your ex back into your life and you have done this because you haven't given yourself enough time to grieve and recover from 10 years with someone.
You should remained single for at least a year so you can grieve and find your true self, so when you meet the really nice guy you will appreciate him because clearly you are not ready now.
2006-12-18 16:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by shepherdivynzac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you were getting back at the good guy by taking the jerk on a business trip. Time to go your seperate ways before you ruin any relationship you may have with a good guy.
2006-12-18 16:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's what you do:
drop the jerk.
don't sleep with him.
don't let him stay at your house.
don't let him take advantage of you.
since you have a child together, you owe it to your daughter to be civil and to not bad-mouth the jerk in front of her. if he is a jerk, she'll figure that out later on.
as long as you're still 'missing the jerk' and allowing him to walk all over you, he's going to keep hurting you. don't worry about trying to 'get him back'. just walk away and stay away for good.
2006-12-18 16:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters don't sleep with him anymore you are giving him the power by doing so. He feels like he got your nose open cause you are suppose to be in this relationship with this "really good guy", your ex is playing on it don't give that loser the satisfaction. That will get to him give it time it will work, cut off the supply, hell if you get that horny find someone sle to sleep with but DON'T do your ex EVER again! That will drive him crazy just be friends. Good luck.
2006-12-18 16:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up! You have a child together....show her an example of a good and strong woman - instead of a child wanting to play games. And didn't you say that you've been dating a really good guy? What about him? Did you tell him that you took your exboyfriend with you on your trip? Did you tell him that he is staying at your house? I feel badly for your daughter...she has a pathetic role model.
2006-12-18 16:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't give it up anymore. No matter how much you missed him, you need to think about your daughter. You don't want to keep bringing him in and out of her life. If you can't resist IT, go to his place or a hotel. Just don't bring him back home.
2006-12-18 16:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating someone repulsively ugly and tell the jerk that the ugly dude reminds you of him.
2006-12-18 16:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by RightLeft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, you cheated on your current "really good guy" to get back with a 'jerk'?
I would say you pretty much deserve worse than you are getting.
2006-12-18 16:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure what you should do, especially when trying to keep the right thing in mind. but i DO agree with you. what he did was really, really nasty of him. just talk to him. yell, scream, get your point across. that's all i can say, sorry. i'm not very imaginitive. but good luck! i totally understand why you're considering revenge!
2006-12-18 16:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by echo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋