I like this guy, he's 25yrs & i'm 27yrs. i was a bit skeptical to go to with him at first (because he's younger). Then i realised that he's mature and something about him is really sexy. When i'm with him i can't help myself to think dirty (sexual) thoughts of him (kind of strange because usually i'm not like that). We went on four dates so far & we never even kiss! Yes he's interested in me. But the thing is, i don't know if i should make the first move.
Is it ok for a girl to make the first move? Without him thinking bad things about me? (Like i'm easy or a whore) you know.
2006-12-18 08:21:30 · 19 answers · asked by Yasmine_flower 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can only give you my experience. I was a bit shy and didn't want to "scare" off the girl I was with. We dated a few times and I didn't kiss her. I really wanted to but didn't want to be to forward. She took the first move, we kissed, dated a few years and now have been married for 24+ years. All I can say is show your feelings. You'll both be very happy you did!!
2006-12-18 08:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by ratdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would be glad that he has not tried anything. You just don't get that this day in time. Don't make the first move. Give it some time. Don't just jump in bed with this man. I know it is hard when you are having these feelings, but you have only been on four dates with him. Fight the feelings.
2006-12-18 08:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, you've hit a nerve! That's my least favorite double standard: a man who has sex on the first date is a stud, and a woman who has sex on the first date is a sl*t. It takes two to tango, lady, and no matter who starts the kissing, you're both taking part in it. It's perfectly fine for you to make the first move whenever you're ready to do so!
2006-12-18 08:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and make the first move, but if you are too agressive you will freak him out.
Maybe hint about it beforehand - ask him what he thinks about girls who make the first move - be hypothetical. Unless he's a moron he'll get the point, and either make a move himself or tell you it's OK.
If he tells you it's not OK and he still does nothing, this is not encouraging.
2006-12-18 08:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely fine for a girl to make the first move. You can initiate it subtly, and let him run with it if you don't want to appear easy. You two are definitely old enough, and hopefully mature enough to figure it out.
2006-12-18 08:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by RightLeft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its okay for a woman to make the first move. And if he's into you, he'll be happy that you did. Why is it that women want equality in jobs and income, but they still expect the man to 'make the first move'????
2006-12-18 08:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you have sexual fantasies of a real guy, you are in trouble! He has got a hold on you, and yes, make the first move. He may be expecting it because you are older! Jump his bones, your not a ho!
2006-12-18 08:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is ok for the girl to make the first move..I would make that first move maybe he doesnt think you are interest and that is why he hasnt made the first move yet..Missy
2006-12-18 08:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by melissa_spear2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you've done 4 dates... i'd say it's a good time to at least go in for a kiss. not necessarily a make-out session, but a kiss.
no.. it's not a bad thing for you to make the first move.. go for it!
2006-12-18 08:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a woman asking and making the first move is HOT! Go for it !
2006-12-18 08:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋