My boyfriend and I decided to spend a weekend together. We had a great time until a friend (guy) of mine came to our hotel room with another girl. We had a foursome but when we finished he still tried to touch her and caress her. Late that night we got into a fight and I splapped him really hard. He was shocked since I never touched him like that not even saying bad words to him.The next day he treated me horrible and made my day misserable, however he cried and ask me to forgive him and I did the same thing.
I love him so much but I am confussed if our relanshionship won't be the same. Should I walk out of this relashionship or stay and try to make it work?
2006-12-18 08:19:57 · 23 answers · asked by Kathy B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you everybody for you opinion. I am dying inside. I feel guilt, fear, sadness...And your words mean the world to me. Thanks
2006-12-18 08:34:52 · update #1
You're great in that you let him have a foursome...I rarely see a girl like you(I mean never)...He is not gonna be able to find a better and more open girl...You're an ideal girl for many guys...Surprise him maybe with another foursome(which includes you, him and 2 other girls...wow), he'll love you forever for that, and he'll love your other slaps and even whips... :-"
2006-12-21 01:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Adrin K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie nothing is going to be the same after that foursome, you have opened up a can of worms. I am not trying to judge but I feel very strong about doing things like that with people you really love. I would do that with a guy I know that I am not going to serious with. He might have wanted more, you put it out there and now you can't handle it. I think you should step back and see what's happening and if you are to unhappy with the relationship by all means leave. I would like to also suggest that you try everything before you settle into a relationship. Good luck and much love.
2006-12-18 08:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better walk away if you cant handle the foursome situation. You screwed up your relationship by bringing in others. Your jealously seems to be the downfall. I would have walked over to the other guy if my guy couldn't let go of the other woman. Man, you made a big mistake.
2006-12-18 08:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Katie, I would walk away. Not because of the slap in the face,but you had a 4th some. This really bothers me. Can't you have a relationship with the man you think you love,without doing what you all did. This show me that all of you have some kind of sexual hang up.This will not get better,it will get worse,and out of control. Walk away while you can. A Freind.
Clowmy
2006-12-18 08:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to make it work, apologize, apologize a lot. Maybe just sit with him and talk about why it happened and what you guys can do to make you both feel better. And if you are comfortable enough with having a foursome you should be able to work through it.
2006-12-18 08:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello... =)
You seem like an open, caring individual.
You seem genuinely sorry.
Violence seems beneath you. Forgiveness is all that seems worthy of you.
Why would you not try to make it work??
He will get over it, and so will you. Just try not to have too many of these slapping sessions.
Regarding his actions with the other girl.. well....it is natural for some guys to be affectionate to someone they just had sex with...and it is usually meaningless in these situations. If you had been nearer to him than her, it would have been you being touched afterward, instead of her.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-18 08:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should stay and try to make the relationship work out between you two. it was a fight that you two had just like all the other relationships out there but if you love him as much as you say and if he loves you back then stay and work it out im sure everything will turn out for the better. good luck.
2006-12-18 08:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it. He seems to care about you. But if you feel weird maybe you should back down if it's really bothering you, but talk first. HUGE MISTAKE ON THE FOURSOME. EWWWW. Plus, why were you surprised? HE WAS IN A FORESOME!!!!
2006-12-18 08:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by chit chat girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay! It sounds like the two of you have worked through it and are ready to move on with the relationship.
2006-12-18 08:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Colonel Angus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was over the minute u all decided to have a foursome sorry very few relationships can withstand that
2006-12-18 08:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋