I met a guy a few months ago and we got on great. He took me for a meal and had a few more dates since then.
We have texted each other almost everyday since meeting and I really like and him and I think he really likes me.
I also know that he is shy.
Anyway, he has texted me recently saying that he's trying not to get too involved with me at the moment as he feels he doesn't have time for a relationship. I really do like him and feel that we could be so happy together if he just let his hair down a little bit and took some chances.
Can you advise me what to do as I would really like to make a go of it with this guy.
2006-12-18 08:16:54 · 25 answers · asked by lollypop_bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you cant force him to do anything unfortunately. although you may want him to 'let his hair down', hes told you he doesnt have time for a relationship :(
if you really like him, try and make it work, but you have to respect his feelings and not take it too far
the question is, do you like him enough to do what he asks? good luck
2006-12-18 08:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by chatterbox15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont have time for a relationship is code for: I'm not that into you but will keep you around for when I have nothing better to do. He should be running to you and figuring out ways to get you, not the other way around. He is totally not worth it.
Honestly, when is the last time you told somebody you liked that you didn't have time for a relationship right now ?
2006-12-18 08:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space, and he'll eventually give you signs that he's ready for more. Don't push him especially if he's shy. It sounds like it is worth the patience and effort since the two of you have obviously invested some time together. Texting each other so frequently is a good sign of interest.
2006-12-18 08:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by RightLeft 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
,aybe he is not lying to you, maybe he doesnt have time for a relationship, no time even to talk on the phone that is why he is texting
if you really do like him tell him that it doesnt have to be serious, just dating and see where it goes from there. nothing wrong with friendly dating if you both like each other.
just dont get too attached as he did warn you that he does not have time for a relationship!
2006-12-18 08:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone tells you who they are, or what they want - you should respect it. He says he's not wanting to get too involved...so respect that. Whether or not YOU think he should take some chances is irrelevant. You should be grateful to have found an honest guy...who is trying to tell you that he doesn't want a relationship with you.
2006-12-18 08:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back and let him go.... For some reason he feels he is not ready and soemtimes girls or guys who aren't ready - sometimes means its not you. DO NOT HANG OUT WITH HIM. Then later on he will tell you - I told you I wasn't ready. Get in a relationship with somewho wants to be in one. It will make it a whole lot better..
2006-12-18 08:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by woozeylucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a single man in his 30's i think i have said that at least one time too many,
its his loss hun, not yours i would move on caus i think he will play with your head otherwise..
find somone with some back bone and commitment..
perhaps someone early 30's who's realised his mistakes and wants to do everything possible to make sure next time he does all he can to show commitment in a relationship. :-)
2006-12-18 08:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know how you feel... Maybe he thinks that you aren't as interested as you really are because he is so shy and is maybe expecting you to make the first move and you haven't? So what else do you have to lose? Go for it girl!
2006-12-18 08:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by meh8036 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do not push him into anything, back off a little and give him space. You have to believe what he is saying, I know you like him but such is life doll.
2006-12-18 08:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take a chance , just blatenly ask him to make time for you! even if its a quik chat everyday on the phone or summet, if u can see this going somewere then you BOTH have to make an effort other wise its just not worth it
2006-12-18 08:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by JoJo40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋