My cousin has allowed her 9 year old daughter to start her own IM account.
2006-12-18 08:12:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Her mom set her up on a Yahoo account, is that one that has a log, and if so how do you check it?
2006-12-18 08:56:09 · update #1
I don't think its the best idea, my 9 year old is only allowed on the computer with a adult in the room and never on any game sites with chat features.
Yahoo has a log feature, i believe you go into prefrences and check the box. Not 100% positive about that though.
2006-12-18 14:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 14 and I've had an aim account since I was like 7 or 8. My parents let me have it because they knew I was basically only talking to my brothers and my brother's friends and a few other family friends or relatives. I knew never to go into any chat rooms, plus I didn't even know how to go to them. I basically had aim because my brother were all older than me and had it so I wanted one and they let me have one.
I think a good thing would to only let her on for a certain amount of time on aim, say like half an hour or maybe an hour a day or less. Also have the parent come in regularly checking on what the child is doing and who they are talking to, even if it means reading their conversation a little. I think we the child gets to be about 11 they should get a little more freedom from this and be able to go on longer, and only tell there parent who they are talking to, because by then it's embarrising. When they are 12 they should be responsible enough to go on alone and not have a time limit. So I think 9 is a perfectly okay age as long as it's supervised.
2006-12-18 11:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. With the things that kids do online, I would be quite afraid of her having an IM account. She is better off letting her daughter communicate through email. The way email is now, it's darn near IM'ing anyway! The emails go through pretty quickly.
It's not just her possibly talking to strangers or people that will prey upon her, kids can also be quite mean. I don't know if she has seen some of the reports on news shows, but some kids bully other kids through IM's and email. It's lead some kids to suicide because of the "cyber bullying" - pretty sad. That isn't as common as adults and sick people preying on young kids... but it's out there.
Bad idea to have a kid with an IM account at 9 years old!
2006-12-18 08:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Way!!! I wouldn't let my 9 year old daughter have her own IM account. Maybe when she is 13 or 14 and better understands how to handle the internet and the dangers of it.
2006-12-18 08:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a bit young. I would wait until she was in middle school. When I was your cousin's daughter's age, the "rite of passage" was being able to talk on the telephone! (I'm only 21)
But yeah, I'd tell your cousin to consider letting her kid use the telephone to talk to her friends. IM, who knows whose gonna be chatting her up. At least with the phone, the calls can be easily monitored. Plus, whatever we can do to get kids off the computer and actually interacting with each other outside the computer world, even if it is only using their voice for the phone, is a good thing in my book!
2006-12-18 08:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Babeli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scary, I wouldn't do it. Just my opinion. I have a 10 year old daughter who had that same request. There is just to many whack job out and about. Heck go into a chat room these days, you get 300 people asking your name, height, weight, what your wearing, if your want to meet, have lunch, sex,...... list goes on and on, and that's just in the parenting room, I guess some people think that's a good place to pick up women, lol. I can't tell you how many people I have on my ignore list now. It's just safer to say no.
Good Luck
2006-12-18 21:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We set our 10 year old up with one and an email. She was using NeoPetz to do all of her messaging and it was really tedious. With her IM we can check her message log. She's also not particularly savy about deleting her old email either. I suppose she'll figure out we are keeping an eye on her eventually, but it's been a year with no problems so far.
2006-12-18 08:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rosemary A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that an IM account would be ok as long as you know who is on the buddie list and i would be wise to get an account to get an account like AIM or Yahoo were you can only talk to people on your list and you can't get on chat rooms or anything like that...but as long as you know your child knows the rules of talking to people on the internet and being cautious IM'ing does not have to be a bad thing for him/her to have
2006-12-18 08:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 11 yr old and a 9 yr old and they are not allowed to have their own accounts because of predators
2006-12-18 08:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by trueangel121301 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a recipe for complacency about the internet. Also, a fine recipe for disaster!
My oldest is 12, very proficient at typing, but is NOT allowed online. He has lots of friends he's busy talking to on the phone. (I know, I was shocked to learn that boys hang out on the phone too!)
2006-12-18 08:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋