Whenever I think I meet a really nice, sweet, funny guy, he leads me onto thinking we will date, then he tells me he has a girlfriend, and asks me to be his girl on the side. Why does this always happen to me? Three or four times before in the past! I am a sweet, attractive girl who does not portray herself as a slut or anything! Why do I keep attracting these kind of guys??
2006-12-18 08:11:43 · 14 answers · asked by Tulip 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and NO i don't have a reputation. I've never slept around in my life!
2006-12-18 08:16:22 · update #1
Well, almost all guys want someone to be the girl on the side, so don't take it too personally. But, if you really feel you're getting more than your fair share of this, you are right to question why and perhaps look inward. When you are approached about this, how do you react? Are you offended? Are you sort of flattered? Do you say what you feel about it, or just keep it inside? Keep on believing in yourself and what you are putting out there, and just know that you are worth more than this and deserve to be someone's number one. Accept nothing less, and someday you will get it.
2006-12-18 08:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let this be known from the beginning that first conversation over the phone, you know the one when you are telling each other what you like and don't like... Tell the guy how you feel about being the girl on the side. Take time and find out about the guy before you even find yourself catching feelings for them...
2006-12-18 08:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mc Voey, You probably have a sweet,and caring face. Men will take advantages of this.Remember only the crawling, dirty,and cheating low life will do this to 2 girls at once. If i was in your shoes,i would tell the cheat,to get the hell out of your life,before you tell his girlfriend what he was up to. Then i think, i would tell her anyway. If this jerk isn't stopped,he will keep hurting girl after girl. A Friend.
Clowmy
2006-12-18 08:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You date aparticular type of guy - They all have the same characteristics -
You may want to look at a guys friends before getting involved with him. Try to find a guy with strong relationships with friends and family - They guys you date are not good and those guys don't have real friends. All my friends that date that type of guy usually like the ones that are too charasmatic or something wierd ( I call wierd they call special)... Just be careful you like a certain personality type that seeks you out - Maybe go for a quieter more shy type of guy thats too dumb to get a lot of girls.
2006-12-18 08:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by woozeylucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only possible reason is that you must possess a quality that attracts these guys to you. Maybe you should start by asking the guys if they have a girlfriend first off rather than finding out and having your hopes crushed.
2006-12-18 08:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Between Times 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well because your attractive and they don't want to lose you. But don't fall for it find you a nice guy that makes you his main woman not just to have you on the side. SO keep your chin up and your knight will come for you one day. Also if you want to chat more about it or have more Q's just IM me or e-mail me anytime
2006-12-18 08:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babe, we choose what guys to be with and which ones to keep on rolling. Just keep on mind every girl as every boy is valuable and has feelings and morals to take care of. Have dignity and self-respect... keep on mind you can find somebody who's gonna treat you right and have you as his number one and only girl. When that happens let them know straight up you're worth to be with and not a sideline girl to have as a hobby.
2006-12-18 08:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by IslandGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, it is to teach you what kind of guys cheat so you can avoid them.
sometime taken guys can be more aggressive in the approach because they know they have something at home.
you must be attracted to that passive agressive "I will approach you and if you reject me I dont care" attitude they have.
you do sound sweet and attractive, email me ;)
2006-12-18 08:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by yeaney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they sound like idiots I wouldnt do that to a girl that is not right. Who's to say that down the line he would date you then find a nother girl on the side too.
2006-12-18 08:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by j g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your to nice to them and they thank they can take advantage of you. Just try to act a little less interested and they will like you more but don't ever do to them like they do to you because then you are just as bad as them.
2006-12-18 08:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋