I suffer w/bipolar disorder and a *few* other physical health problems. I've been in and out of the hospital many xs this year. Concequently I've not worked for about 9 mos. Often my basic fuctioning is affected by illiness. My bedroom is cluttered w/clothes, books, papers, etc. Sometimes moving around the room entails stepping over piles of clutter. OK granted. The problem I'm asking about? I sponsored my stepsons to come live here from a poor, African country 6 months ago. They are 22/19 and live w/their bio father and I, working part-time at McDonald's, for 3 months--their 1st jobs. Sometimes the oldest one makes ...comments about me and other Americans *casually and out of the blue*. He's said "You need job. Even if you just get small money, you should work. American women don't like work. Why?" or "Your room look like the US Reality Show. They have to come clean-up the person house for them. I guess that's how the American is--basically unclean." How wld U reply to these remarks?
2006-12-18 07:58:10 · 15 answers · asked by Cocoa 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
I can relate to some of what you are going through. I think that if it were an option to talk to your husband you won't be here asking about how to reply. Same thing if counseling were available so I'm not going to give you those pat, lame answers. I think you should not tall to you husband but TELL him that you won't be talked to like that in your own home. There is a slight chance that they are typical clueless immigrant males and don't realize that what they are saying is hurtful and offensive b/c they have never been taught that they should respect the feelings of women. If that's the case so what? I would STILL make it clear to your husband that his offspring had better get a clue QUICK. If he won't comply and/or if it continues--even with your health problems I would suggest that you start looking into social service agencies (abused women's programs, support groups, hot-lines, counseling agencies) that can assist you in escaping from these neanderthals before they do more damage to your mind-set than the obviously already have. And no it's absolutely NOT your fault if they have negative stereotypes about how Americans are!! Prejucice is something that is within the individual. If a black person get's caught stealing is it his/her fault that the arresting cop decides that all blacks are thiefs????!! HELL NO! The cop was already a racist pig if he/she lets negative experiences with 1,2, or 50 people of color make them decide that an entire race of millions is a certain way. Same with how immigrants view Americans. If they watch reality TV so much do they not see manicured American homes? I'm sure they do. They CHOOSE to see 1 or 2 TV shows that have disorganized, messy homes and use that against you and say "the American" is just that way. Sickening. Girl you may need to just get up out of there. These people are adult MEN. If they feel this way at this age, they will never change. Oh and don't worry about people like "braennvin", "sex kitten ll" they are just pitiful twits. Report the 1st one and forget the 2nd (I did). Feel free to email me anytime.
2006-12-18 08:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kaitlyn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you see according to your own inner thoughts. I see adult black males as being very successful. In MD there was a show on the other day about a principal of a school here that is really focused on success. Most of the students were black. I thought about how many white people are republicans & have let hatred control their life. Fox news is constantly about putting people down. While ABC news has beautiful stories about what good things are happening all the time. You can change your life by just looking for people who are doing good things. I know in MD we are doing ver well & where you live it might not be great. You have to gaurd your mind & talk positive even if it is unpopular in the area you live.
2016-05-23 04:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be honest....that is very rude of them. I don't like to stereotype too much, but here I go. The respect of women is not something taught to people in some hard-line Muslim areas...they put women on some wierd pedestal of perfection and purity and if she does not attain it, she has shamed herself, her family and Allah. As far as women working, my boyfriend spent a little over a year in Iraq and he always talks about how much the women worked over there and the men would literally sit around and do nothing. All the women were in the fields, and the men were lazy pieces of *****...I'm quoting him here...pardon the language. So maybe they are accustomed to seeing women doing back breaking work.
As far as how to handle it, I would tell your husband how you feel and also tell them how you feel and that it is disrespectful...and you would appreciate not being disrespected under your own roof. But, with all do respect, it would not hurt to clean up a little more...it's hard to work all day and come home to a pig sty....consider it a compromise. Good luck!
2006-12-18 08:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by ♥austingirl♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i guess they never bothered to ask if they could help you do laundry or clean? and you sponsored them to come to the United States? i'd tell those ungrateful bastards to go the f#ck back to that festering cesspool of a continent and try hawking some Mrs.Pauls frozen sticks for a living.
2006-12-18 08:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by slabsidebass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, sounds like you've got a couple ingrates. Give 'em a brush and broom and tell 'em to get busy cleaning the place up and you'll work on getting them their tickets back to the heaven they seem to prefer to this.
Edit: bipolar or not, you OWE them nothing and they owe a little respect to their host.
2006-12-18 08:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them to get another job besides working part-time at McDonalds before they criticize someone who is out of work because of health problems.
2006-12-18 08:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Niecy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Typical muslim response. Notify the Homeland security and tell them they might be part of a terror cell, ungrateful little bastards
2006-12-18 09:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault that they have those ideas , you should tell them though to respect you because such things being said to their own parents isn't good . Also , you should teach them some manners .
2006-12-18 08:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by kame 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be calling trying to get them deported - what the USA doesn't need is more anti-American muslims
2006-12-18 09:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are 22/19,kick their *** to the curb and tell them to quite freeloading,if they can't find the good , go back to where they came from.
2006-12-18 08:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋