I've been dating this guy for about two months and things are going great. It feels like we are falling in love. Well last time we had sex he whispered "I love you" by my ear. I didn't respond really because I didn't know what to say and he said it so softly and I wasn't even sure if he meant me to hear. What do you think this means? Does it count? Should I ask him about it?
2006-12-18 07:56:08 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well oveiously he loves you the question is do you love him if so tell him, then he will say the words all the time .Trust me no man whispers those words like that even if very quiet unless he does , or unless he's a man that said those words before sex just to get some, lots like that but being it was after sex dude loves you, Gosh some of these answers sound like they are comming from Virgins, being he's a man like me he's just nervious about your response he said it quiet to be safe in a way , that way if at the time you were upset about him saying that he could maybe retract it real quick, yes he was fishing in a sense simply trying to get you to say the same and you should have if you do love him, cause you not saying anything probably hurt him somewhat.Saying I Luv U is a 50/50 thing there is no rule as to weather a man or woman says it first, after your reaction he may not say it again for a good while simply cause he fears rejection especially after you ignored him whispering it. Believe me it doesnt matter if is in the middle of sex or after if he says those words he darn well knows what he's saying , again if is before sex and he hasn't gotten any yet yea thats a play to get some haha.But he already scored so think he wouldnt say those words at that time no way unless he really was falling in love with you. Hope this makes sense,I am 43 and know a little about a man cause I am one,but be sure he said I Luv U cause maybe he said I love this or whatever hehe.
2006-12-18 08:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by albert 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he was romantic and loving you and you felt he was tenderly loving you and if it sounded as though he meant what he said then I am sure he loves you and meant to say it. I would not think a guy would say something during sex he did not mean especially if it was something like that. I think the worse thing you can do is to question him. Take it for what it is and be happy. Next time you are intimate with him you whisper in his ear the same thing and see what happens.
2006-12-18 08:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says it at other times when you're not getting hot and heavy, then it still counts. I think it counts most when a guy SHOWS love outside of the bedroom, like if he opens doors for you, calls you a lady or a good woman, won't start his car until you're completely buckled up, and treats you with respect and accepts all of you 100%, that, to me, says I love you more than anything!
2006-12-18 08:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by collegebutterfly73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he probably meant it....sex is a very intimate time and brings out true feelings when you really care about someone. He might be wondering why you didnt say anything back to him. I would see if he says it again (hopefully it will not just be said in the bedroom). If he only says it while you are having sex I guess I would ask him after the fact why he does not say it at other times.
2006-12-18 08:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOLOL a man is liable to say whatever he thinks you want to hear in moments like that - like for instance"Don't worry honey, if you get pregnant, we'll get married" I just wouldn't put a lot of stock in what a man says at such a time. Now, if he came to pick me up for a date and I was standing there in my dressing down with my hair in a mess, telling him I had ruined my home perm and I couldn't go out looking like this, and he smiled and said "I love you honey" THAT would have impact. LOL
2006-12-18 09:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say wait and see what happens from here. Often people are feeling something but aren't ready to say it but the emotion takes over during sex. If you feel the same way say it to him and see how he responds, if you feel comfortable waiting to see if he brings it up again then I suggest you do that. The feeling is there but maybe he isn't ready to say it openly, either way relax because he's feeling strong emotions but guys sometimes have a hard time expressing themselves.
2006-12-18 08:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by lonestarlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, some guys lose their mind during sex and say "I love you" whereas they really and only love sex, it was my case when I was young... Some are timid and use the pretext of intercourse to whisper in your ears what they feel about you. Hard to tell. The way you present the issue I would think he is sincere....
2006-12-18 08:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't count. I would ask him how he feels and if he loves you but since you have only been dating for 2 months I am not so sure I would believe him saying that he does love you. It seems to soon.
2016-03-13 08:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, you can not take it to heart if it was during sex. Men and women say some strange and meaningless things when they are turned on and you can't believe it. If he really loves you then he will tell you again (out of bed)
2006-12-18 08:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by Beauty&Brains 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think things uttered or whispered or moaned during the throes of passion should count. I wouldn't ask him about it. If he loves you and intends for you to know it, he will tell you ... you won't have to ask. Just think how awkward it could be if you ask and he didn't even remember saying it or didn't mean it. What is he supposed to say to you then?
2006-12-18 07:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by Rvn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋