My boyfriend and I are going to stay with his parents for the holidays . We are both in our mid thirties and this is our first Christmas - We both have never been married - and his fa,ily is really nice - although I think his mom feels wierd that we just moved in together. Are there certain things I need to do? I should do?
2006-12-18 07:47:47 · 12 answers · asked by woozeylucy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Bring a dessert or bring some Christmas candy or cookies. when there offer to help with dishes and pick up after the meal, also offer to help get stuff made for the meal and set the table if u ever got married. The mother-in-laws like your help alot i always help my in laws even when it comes to other get togethers so that will get things going on a good start by helping her out. and that should make her feel better about u
2006-12-18 08:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by marshmellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always polite to bring a house gift when staying at someone's house. Depending on what they like, appropriate gifts would include a (decent or nice) bottle of wine, a nice box of chocolates or something for the kitchen like olive oil, pistachios, etc. I live near an olive oil company and a vineyard, so I always bring something local because it seems a little more special and it's not something you can just pick up at the grocery store. The house gift demonstrates your appreciation of your hospitality and may help your relationship with his mom.
You should ask your boyfriend if they are planning to give you anything for Christmas. If they are then you should definitely buy them gifts as well, but it doesn't need to be too spectacular. If your boyfriend isn't sure then you can always buy gifts then hide them so if they didn't get you anything
Good luck!!
2006-12-18 08:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring a hostess gift, such as flowers, wine, or some baked goods. Then bring them each a small Christmas gift. Be respectful and polite when you are there and don't be surprised or upset if they make you sleep in separate rooms. Crazy I know, you are in your thirties, but some parents still do this.
Finally, thank them for having you and follow up with a thank you card a week after Christmas. They will think the world of you.
2006-12-18 07:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and dont let them make you feel uncomfortable. I am picturing a similar situation (as far as the family goes) in the movie "the family stone". It was awkward for sarah jessica parker entering into the family space for christmas.
Just be yourself - take a bottle of wine for the family, maybe a drink or two and they wont be uptight. Make some cookies to take if you want, or something else home baked. I know that food helps to ease things when it comes to gatherings.
Just go and have a great time!
2006-12-18 07:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by designerista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you bringing a gift? I think it would be nice to bring a gift for his parents...maybe I nice blanket or something? A candle set? whatever they may enjoy. If ever his mom is working in the kitchen you should pop in and try to help. You could ask if she needs help...but usually they say no. Don't stress, enjoy the visit. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-18 08:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in touch with his mom if you can and ask her if you can bring something. If she says no, or you suspect she will say no, offer to bring something specific such as "I make my Aunt Mables famous shortbread/sweet potatoes/cranberry sauce every Christmas, do you mind if I bring it along?" In addition find a nice hostess gift-something for the home, like candles or a pretty vase with flowers, a bottle of wine depending on her style and taste.
Then relax and enjoy yourself. If you love her son, she will probably love you. Mothers love it when people love their children.
2006-12-18 07:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Tavita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cordial feel them out first, but be respectful to there home too. Be yourself; you say they are nice, so be nice back to them. As for the presents; ask your boyfriend should you get anything for his family. He knows them better than you do, so he may just say the gift he buys for them could be from the both of you. That usually works.
2006-12-18 08:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could no longer harm to ask them...except they are the style that would not inform you in spite of in the event that they did want something. I advise a pair bottles of wine, one alcoholic and one no longer. Or grab some ginger ale and cranberry juice. There are on no account adequate drinks at a kinfolk table!
2016-10-15 04:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, you should bring something. Nothing big, you don't wanna over do it but a gift is a nice gesture. posibaly a plant or a dessert if you'll be having dinner. Be creative and don't over-do-it, I'm sure they'll love you.
2006-12-18 07:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring chocolates for the family,cheap and always goes down well,and no matter what the temptation dont eat them yourself,good luck
2006-12-18 07:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋