How do you know if you're in love?

Question

Are there certain feelings you have when you think about the person or when you see them? I know what lust is...but I need to know about true love? I'm 30 and has had MANY boyfriends and yet, I still don't know.

I normally date men who live far from me so I won't have to deal with them daily. This guy lives 5 min. away and I can't get enough of him. We've been dating for 11 months now and we suffered a loss together a few months back. Everytime I see him or hear his voice, my heart beats fast and it puts a smile on my face. We don't however, have a lot of time together due to the fact he works 2 jobs. But when we do, it's well worth the wait.

Answer 1

Well there are certain things you can ask yourself to see if you love someone:

Would I move across the country and leave my job and family to be with them?

Would I marry this person and want to have kids with him?

Ask yourself a question you normally would have a quick no to. and if you would change your answer for that man, you clearly love him.

Just don't settle for a man you love! make sure he loves you too.

Love only works when it is bothways - otherwise you might end up used, or worse, beaten and mistreated.

Answer 2

You always just want to be around him/her. When you feel physically sick when he/she is gone.You hurt when you are away from him/her. When you get so happy to hear his/her voice, or you get so excited when you finally get to see the person again, even though it has only been 10 min since they left ! No matter how long they have been away, you wish they were there... Well this was the way I felt. Every one is different. Good Luck, Love is a beautiful thing, I hope you find it!

Answer 3

Imagine that the person was in a horrible accident, lost thier looks and possibly use of some of thier body.

Now ask yourself, would you still feel the feeling you are experiencing right now for that person? Would you stay by thier side in emotionally supporting them the best you absolutely could without thinking about yourself first? If your answer is yes, well, that is love and not lust.

Answer 4

Considering the fact that love is one of the most subjective words and feelings, it is hard to give a hard definition of what it really is.

For me personally, love is when your stomach sinks evertime you think about the person, when you can't imagine your life without them, when you can see yourself growing old with them and when they bring things out in you other people are incapable of doing.

I don't consider love to be a work in progress, you're either in it or you are not but I have had many debates about this. Many people say that love is when you grow to know someone, earn their trust and vice versa. Being a hopeless romantic, I stick with my idea but I cannot speak for anyone else.

Answer 5

well i say love develops over time and grows ike a plant u need to take care for it

but u will be unselfish of the other

it takes time to develop

ur attracted by the qualities in side to physical really

does that person make u feel good

u see there faults but forgive them and love them still

when problems rise u settle them and talk them out bad things i thnk

u want to give and share with that person

i hope it help laters

Answer 6

True love is...
When he takes all your troubles away with a single touch,
When you wish nothing more than to share your life with him,
When every kiss he gives you takes your breath away,
When your eyes fill with joy at the sight of his smiling face,
When your light seems to dim every time he's far away,
When being in his embrace is the only place you want to be,
Knowing without a doubt that he feels the same exact way.

That's the way I feel about my true love...

Answer 7

You want to know if its the real thing? You have had long distance relationships before and now you have a person that is away from you a lot

The answer to this important question depends upon which part of you feels 'in love' and which part of him you are 'in love' with."

You can be in love from your ego, or your her wounded self hence all the long distance relationships. If you are in love from your wounded self, it will be about external things and the love will not last. But if you are in love from her soul Self, it will be about internal things, and it is very likely that you are in love at last.

"What do you love about him"
"What is different about him than the others?"


Margaret Paul, Ph.D., Los Angeles, CA, USA
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Answer 8

you dont know cuz you have not been in love yet honestly i have fallen for one person very hard.....what i think is you get your own kind of feelings but when you have them you will kow there is no avoiding them...my stomach always felt strange not in a bad way though like it was being tickeled on the inside and it always made me think of them and when i tried to stop thinking about them something would remind me of them then when your with them you just smile and stare at them actuall sometimes the feeling of being in love is terrible in my case for example the person i fell for was unavailable then i moved so i still have those feelings every time i talk to that person im truly in love and you will know i promise you just havent met that person for you but when you do there is no denying that your in love especially when you get that feeling i hope i helped you alot and dont give up!!!!!

Answer 9

Well, I am an abstract, poetic person, so I apologize if this doesn't make any sense...

We all truly live in our own world, truth is very important here, keep reality and truth in mind while reading all of this. Our own world consists of everything we TRULY are, not any pop culture influence or expectations from others, but our true self, our true soul, the real part of us that connects us to reality instead of the fakeness of the society around us. That world must be open and sacrad to you in order for you to fall in love. To fall in love, you must first live in this world, the easiest way to unlock that ability is to express yourself, your soul. Once you are in tune with who you truly are, you can love.

True love has to do with the other's soul, the other person's world. You must be able to see that person's world, that person's soul, and relate to it, connect to it, become dependent on it. From there, you begin to live in the other person's world, where they are the most important thing in your life, you are dependent on their soul and who they are.

To be loved in return, is a mere switching of worlds, you live in your lover's world and your lover lives in your world, however, you always keep a close connection to the world you once lived in and you keep yourself, your soul, you never loss any part of yourself in this process, you only gain something more, something greater.

You care for the other, you essentially live off the other and while in love, nothing else in the world matters but your love for that person, that need.

Answer 10

I'd say remember when you point a sharp object in between your eyes and you get that weird funny feeling thats when you know but not just at your eyes every where in your body but most girls say they usually feel it in ther innner thighs and some where in the chest area.Their Heart I think!