What age should you have the "birds and bees" talk with your daughter?

Answer 1

I would start very young because there are so many predators out there. They need to know what is right and wrong, and you can't teach them that unless they know the basics of sex. Don't lie, telling them the stork story, but rather a little of the truth at a time. Don't wait for the child to ask either. That's like a disaster waiting to happen, she may never ask and then get her information from kids at school, which you don't want at all. I started talking to my son when he was 3, because he was going to start in daycare and I wanted him to be aware of certain things. I think that is a good age. You don't want sex to be a nasty/taboo thing for them, but rather a respectful thing.

Answer 2

The birds and bees subject is one that should be broached in a variety of ways over time with your kids in ways that are age-appropriate. You probably shouldn't wait until she asks, because she may ask her friends and get bad information before she asks you. Never tell a child myths like the one about the cabbage patch. You can start young with the idea that mommies and daddies are both needed to have a baby. You can also use books about bringing home a new baby to bring up the topic. My parents had a book about where babies come from that was very helpful to us growing up, and then my kids used it. My daughter even liked to read it to her friends who were uninformed. At least they were getting the right info. lol. Sex is a natural part of life, and the subject should be talked about as naturally as you can manage.

That being said, be very sure to tell your daughter about having periods well in advance of when it could happen, because nothing frightens a girl like starting to bleed and not having a clue why.

Answer 3

Personally I think the actual talk should be at around 9-10 but you also need to explain some things when they start noticing that the opposite sex has different "equipment". Personally I think when they start noticing the difference you should have a little talk about private areas that are yours and no one elses. And that no one is allowed to touch them without your permission. I'm not sure that that is considered part of the birds and the bees but I think it's crucial anyway. Good luck with your daughter!

Answer 4

I have two daughters. The oldest 18 and the youngest 15. We've been talking about this since they were small. They both knew about periods before they even started school. I can remember my youngest being in 2nd grade and watching a show on lifetime that involved a baby being born. That certainly sparked conversation. I always told them what they could understand for their age but never sugar coated anything. My daughters are very comfortable asking any kinds of questions along this line because of that. It's never too early. You just need to make sure you are exlplaining on a level that they can understand. Since the girls reached the teenage years I definitely tell it like it is. I'd rather they hear it from me and hear it right.

Answer 5

Unfortunately children today find out too much at a young age. I know that other kids are prone to tell all that they know in school. TV does not help either. I had this discussion with my daughter on a mild note when she was 7. I did not go into all of the details but I wanted her to know the correct information and not find out from friends at school. Make sure that she knows that she can ask you about anything she may hear in school or if she just has a question. Let her know not to be embarrassed or feel stupid. Tell her that it is good to ask questions.

Answer 6

unfortunatly we live in a day and age where we have talk to our children sooner than we would like to. being a mother of 4, 3 of which are girls i have noticed that kids as young as 8 are talking pretty accuratly about the birds and the bees, in my opinion we should talk to our kids around 8 or 9 so that they don't have any misconceptions about sex. be open with them but use words and discreptions that are on their level. the transition to adulthood is a scary one but an issue we have to address all the same

Answer 7

If she asks than talk with her about it or if you think she's mature enough than you can tell her about the birds and the bees. There is really no proper age its just based on maturity level

Answer 8

Start talking now. It shouldnt be one single "birds and bees" talk. You should start an open line of communication now, and keep it going. let her know you are there to talk and listen. i dont think you said her age, but it doesnt matter. there is always age appropriate discussion.if shes already a preteen then theres alot more information she needs to know. where her period comes from and why. how babies are made and how to prevent it(ideally until marriage) sexually transmitted diseases.Why men and woman have sex.Throw your own morals in there too, like if you believe sex should wait until marriage.if shes younger, the period talk is still good. I got my period at 10(and my mom had already explained it to me so I was fine with it) so dont think shes too young.Well, good luck

Answer 9

Before or at the start of puberty.....
when they ask start asking questions about certain things even if it's about the opposite sex....answer a little bit at a time so you won't have to dump all the info on them at once....keep lines of communication open at all times so it wont be a big deal when they turn 16 and want to have sex....little talks along the way work better than locking them up at 16 and forbidding them to leave the house

Answer 10

now in this day and age i think it is imperative to educate our daughters as early as possible. they see so much on tv and what their friends tell them that even in 3rd or 4 th grade (9-11yrs old) they are already talking about boys and things. girls that young are impressionable and need to have the right guidance. for example my daughter just told me that 3 boys in her class got in trouble for passing a note saying who is hotter? and had 3 girls names on it. (one being my daughter lol). as soon as you think she has a grasp on herself and surroundings you should start implementing the birds and the bees. and it doesn't have to be a long drawn out process it can be split up to fit this situation. if you see something that someone is doing or on the tv that she may ask about answer truthfully and always reassure her. good luck and happy holidays=)