Im only 3 1/2 months pregnant but I really want to be a good mom and same with him but he wants to be a real good dad.what can i do to get ready and prepare to be a good mother after all this is my first child?
2006-12-18 07:40:17 · 11 answers · asked by Haylee J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
there is little you can do
you will need patients, in abundance
lots of sympathy.
and some good books that tell you about chld develoipment.
As a researcher in child devlopment, the one issue that concerns me is when parents/carers mistake 'bad' behaviour in their children, they think differently after all.
don't smoke around her, don't argue areound her, lots of cuddles and faith in yourself.
Make dad involved, most dad's who aren't involved don't start out that way, they feel inadequate or pushed out by mummy
2006-12-18 07:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you want give your child the best is wonderful, the rest will come naturally.
While you are pregnant, you can prepare by making sure you don't worry needlessly, your child will be going through the same emotions as yourself, try and stay happy and stress free,
dad can help by encouraging happy, stress free thoughts, and giving you massages as often as possible.
Listen to soothing music, try not to shout or argue with anyone, talk to your child and read to it.
Reading up on pregnancy is good but may give you too much information, so be open minded about what books say.
Have your bits and pieces ready for when the child arrives, you'll feel better prepared.
But above all, Don't Panic! It really will all come naturally to you!
GoodLuck!
2006-12-18 08:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by anjem b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can really do apart for have everything ready the baby will need. As long as you want the baby and are ready from the long nights, then that is all you need to be a good mum. If you like to read Dr Stoddards book is very good. It shows you the baby's changes from month to month and covers a lot of problem you could face when you get the baby home i.e nappy rash and colic.
2006-12-18 07:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by tambojem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do to be a good mom and dad is to go by your instincts, and also give your baby all the love it needs. Lots of cuddles and closeness too. When your baby is asleep don't 'tippy toe' around the room or ask your visitors not to make a noise. A little bit of noise (even a vacuum cleaner going) reassures a baby that he/she is not alone. If a visitor wishes to hold the baby, let them even if baby is asleep but not to disturb it too much. And the most important thing to remember - you will love your baby so much, but make sure that love encompasses your partner too. The last thing is to throw away all the books written by 'experts'. Every baby is different and so you cannot 'go by the book'. A baby is very time consuming and it is easy to 'let yourself go' and look unattractive. Remember, you and your husband are still lovers so take some time out to pamper yourself. All the Very Best.
2006-12-18 08:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sandee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry! when i first became pregnant i was like oh my god how do i become a good mum!!! Then i forgot all about it now my boys are 4 and 2 and when they turn to u and sa y ' mummy i love you and your the best mum' Then i remember when i used to think 'I WANT TO BE A GOOD MUM' hey if my sons say that then who better to believe!!!!!! hope you have a good pregnancy and birth.Good luck
2006-12-18 23:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by lady z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll just come naturally. Sometimes reading parenting books is a good way to pick up on parenting techniques. You'll be good parents as long as you love your child and each other
2006-12-18 09:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by valerie_lynn82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry you'll be great parents. When i had my baby i was so worried that i wouldnt know what to do but it comes naturally,you'll be surprised. You'll be a dab hand in no time. Good Luck!
2006-12-18 12:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by flo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your already there, simply by saying you want to be a good mum, Love and kindness is all it take´s , and most of us woman have that with in, sure you´ll be a good mum , don´t worry , Merry Christmas to you.
2006-12-18 07:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
me and my wife we worried but it did come natural for us to look after our first born, also u will get help from mid wife's and health visitors and possibly too much help from family
2006-12-18 07:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by x1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, im sure you will be a brilliant mum! it just comes naturally to most new mums, hopefully it will for you to!
2006-12-18 07:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by button moon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋