My parents want me to play in front of everyone so that i'll be asked to play for church, but they just won't get it that I DON'T WANT TO PLAY IN FRONT OF EVERYONE. I like playing, but i like playing for myself, which sounds selfish, i'm sorry, but to tell the truth i feel like they want me to play in front of the church just so that they can have something to brag about. Now don't misunderstand, i love my parents, they're good people, but there are times when they proclaim our accomplishments rather to loudly. I already draw/paint, and i guess i'm pretty good because people have actually offered to pay for things i've done. Almost everyone already knows about it, and my parents remind me of strutting peacocks when they talk about it. i'm sorry, but i don't want my playing the piano to turn into the same thing, and i REALLY don't want toplay in front of church. I've already tried to make them know how i feel, but they started acting like i'm a bad child that's sinning cause i wont play
2006-12-18 07:39:52 · 10 answers · asked by Konami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow reading your question brought me back to when I was a little kid. I had the exact same situation going on. My parents wanted me to play the piano in church and sing. Whenever they had company they would ask me to play the piano and many times I didn't want to but I did it anyways because I didn't want to appear rude. I really hated that when I was younger, so much that I quit taking lessons, and stopped playing for quite a long time. Years later I realized how much I missed it and took it up again on my own. My advice is to have a heart to heart with them and tell them you're glad they are so proud of you but you really don't like being on a pedestal like that. Tell them that forcing you to do it could take away your love of music and that would be very sad. In retrospect I know that my parents weren't trying to shove anything on me and were just proud and love to hear me play.
2006-12-18 08:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I play the piano too. I find my playing to be a personal thing. Perhaps you should teel your parents that playing the piano is a way of worshipping for you and that it is between you and the Lord. You feel that you are not ready to share such a personal side of you yet. Add the word "yet". It'll give them a false hope that someday you will and that will get them off your back for know. Also, remember, nobody can force you to do this. It's your fingers.
2006-12-18 07:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends upon your jurisdiction, but I don't know of anywhere in the world where it is a crime to not want to play the piano. But by the same token, you should suck it up and do what you're told and not be a whinning snivling little brat about it. just play the damm piano, it won't kill you.
As an added bonus; learn how to play a really raucnchy and/or devil worshippy song and play that at your church instead. nothing wrong with offending a bunch of religious types.
2006-12-18 07:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go ahead and play the piano and be proud of yourself that you know how to play.So what if your parents are the way they are. Sounds like they only want the best for you. My dad wanted me to take piano lessons but I didn't want to. Now I wish I had. My parents are now gone.I wish that I would have had a different relationship with both of my parents but now it's too late.So what if your parents like to brag. Alot of parents are like that especially if their proud of you. Do it before it's too late.
2006-12-18 07:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a musician, and I know plenty of very talented people who, for whatever reasons, prefer to keep their musical gifts to themselves. It's not a crime. If you don't want to play publicly, then don't. But don't expect your parents to understand, either. It sounds as if they're trying to live vicariously through you. I was forced, even as a pre-schooler, to do public performances by my mother, who was ruthless about my practicing and would shove me onstage at the drop of a hat.
2006-12-18 07:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by thaliax 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
say that you want to continue playing, but you are not ready to perform in front of the church. But maybe in a few years. that way you have some time to rethink it and convince them that you just dont want to play in front of a crowd.
2006-12-18 07:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by qwerty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always get a sprained thumb or a paper cut on one of your fingers and get out of it that way.
:)
But in reality you really should have a sit down discussion with mom and dad and let them know how you really feel about it.
2006-12-18 07:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that playing in church is playing for God, that God can hear you just fine elsewhere, and you have no interest in putting on a show for anyone else.
2006-12-18 07:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no its not a crime. they are probably just disappointed becuase they want everyone else to know how good you are.
2006-12-18 07:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of cours not
2006-12-18 07:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋