When she was 13 she messed up, joined bad crowds, She disppointed me, broke my trust and was grounded for about 2 months.But to her, worse than the grounding was my losing the trust I had. Actually for several months I was harsh, treated her with grim words, made it clear I didn't trust her .This made her suffer a lot and maybe I exaggerated, but this has to do w/ my personality. She changed, today she deserves all my trust but our relationship is destroyed, she got extremely resentful. She told me I didn't act as a mom, cause a mom has to love their kids even when they make mistakes. She agrees she messed up and deserved a punishment, but it should be out of love and my duty was help her become reliable again and get over her bad phase instead of submitting her to an emotional massacre. She sincerely regreted what she had done,decided to change and I should've considered this. She says if I didnt help her when she messed up then I dont deserve her now that shes a wonderful girl.
2006-12-18 07:37:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It seems I lost my girl,maybe forever, couldn't never realize that would affect and hurt her so much
2006-12-18 07:38:53 · update #1
You need to tell her all of this and more. Tell her why you acted the way you did (I suspect it had more to do with you being angry at yourself then with her actions). The healing process will be a long road but the first step is talking to her. Confide in her and show her (through your actions) that you trust her. You might even consider taking a vacation over a school break for just the two of you so you can get to know one another again. It doesn't have to be anywhere too spectacular, but just get out of the house and force yourselves to spend time together. I am certain that she wants to fix things too-- every daughter wants to have a good relationship with her mother, just sometimes it doesn't seem possible. Tell her then show her that you are capable of being her friend as well as her mother. Good luck!!
2006-12-18 07:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save relationship 15 yo girl
2016-03-13 08:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it helps any, I was the WORST teen ever. My parents should have written me off. They did kick me out and told me to find my own way, but I figured out pretty quickly how good I had it at home. So I tried to come back and they said no way, you made your choice, live with it. About 3 months of being of the streets and begging them to come home, they finally let me. I was so thankful, finished school, and worked hard from that day forward. If you knew my occupation, my lifestyle and/or me personally, you would never guess I went through this.
My mother and I are best friends and vacation together. Tough love was the best thing that ever happened to me.
2006-12-18 08:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the answer is. My daughter has skipped school, got suspended, expelled, stole my car and wrecked it, etc. But through it all, I made sure she knew I loved her. I hugged her, kissed her and made sure she knew I would always be there no matter how bad she messed up. All I can suggest is to show her that you are sorry. That you want to make everything better. Maybe suggest a counselor to help both of you work through your feelings.
2006-12-18 07:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she should be grateful that she has parents that care about her and dont beat the sh;t out of her everytime she messes up. That is comeing form a 16 y/o btw. Id have you as a mom neday.
2006-12-18 10:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋