My girlfriend is about to move in with me but she has major panic/anxiety attacks almost every night. They really scare me even though I've had them myself in the past and know it's temporary and I just need to get her mind off it. Still....I am afraid I won't be able to help her and it will cause problems. Our relationship is great, and I really want to make this work.
Anyone ever been in a similar situation and has any good advice??
Thanks!
2006-12-18 07:33:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
She is on medication. I haven't really had an attack in years and only get them in large crowds.
I feel like if I say "Just breathe" (even though I know that's the best way to calm yourself down cause that's what I did for myself), it will make it worse for her.
I know the best thing to do is just completely get her mind off of it but at the moment, I'm so freaked out that I kind of freeze up and don't know what to do besides just hold her. I'm just scared that if it gets really bad, beyond what it is now, I won't be able to help her.
2006-12-18 08:11:32 · update #1
Ok I have serious panic attacks and just general anxiety a lot and here are some tricks my fiance uses.
1. He's learned to notice when I'm starting to get a little anxious and he tries to start distracting me then instead of waiting until I'm in full blown panic mode.
2. If he notices I'm getting too irritated he "peer pressures" me into taking my ativan. For some reason I always think it's going to pass really soon and I'll be fine...but it doesn't happen that way does it.
3. When it just gets too bad he tries to accommodate whatever I need to feel safer. We've spent some nights camped in our closet simply because it's the only place I feel safe.
And the thing that helps me most is the fact that he still loves me even when I'm out of my mind afraid. Loving her can make all the difference. Good luck to the both of you!
2006-12-18 11:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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My girlfriend is about to move in with me but she has major panic/anxiety attacks almost every night. They really scare me even though I've had them myself in the past and know it's temporary and I just need to get her mind off it. Still....I am afraid I won't be able to help her and...
2015-08-06 21:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. She can really benefit from medication - have her see a doctor, preferably a Psychiatrist, but can be a regular doctor.
2. When she is in the midst of the attack, do NOT get frustrated or panicked yourself. Allow her to experience the attack for as long as it lasts - don't say things like "there is nothing to worry about, it's all ok" - as these will likely increase her panic and give her something else to worry about (ie, convincing you that her panic is legitimate). Remember, to HER, the panic is very, very real. All you can do is be a safe place for her. Let her know you are here to walk through the panic WITH HER, by her side. That she is not going through the terror alone.
2006-12-18 08:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Jenn ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Deep breathing helps. Take in a breath through the nose until your lungs can't hold any more air then exhale through puckered lips very slowly.Think about the breathing and nothing else.It can be easy to fall into the trap of feeding off of each others emotions. Be careful not to help one another get into a panic attack. I am hoping that both of you are receiving help for these panic attacks if not please do.
2006-12-18 08:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you cant get her breathing sorted like you suggest to her, get her to count from 100 backwards out loud to you. If its not spoken it wont be thought about to the same degree. Concentrating on the numbers distracts from the thoughts of not bring able to breathe. Thinking of something other than panicking helps slow the thoughts a wee bit and in turn slows the mind and body.
Hope it may help
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