i already asked something like this but then something else came to mind so well anyways why is it that woman cant go into a relationship like that and not get attatched i went into that kind of relatiohship because i didnt want a relatihonship right then i thought i could do it without taking a second thought but i still dont know why woman are more vulnerable to attatchement please help me understand more!!!
2006-12-18 07:32:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its all a chemical thing. When we have sex, our bodies release all sorts of fun chemicals and hormones. When having sex certain chemicals make you feel that you are in love. So we as women (heck as humans) like the feeling of being in love. Therefore, we mistake that feeling for the real thing.
I used to have a friends with benefits situation as well. Once you seriously sit down and thing about what you want..those feelings seem to evaporate as quickly as the after sex glow..lol
2006-12-18 07:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Becca P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) you can't do anything with anyone without feeling something.. just liking someone means you care about them.. caring about someone has feelings..
2) As for relationships (whatever kind).. emotional commitment is the key element you must be able to control... When you start getting closer than want to be you must back up.. take some time away from that person.
- Getting closer or having those feelings is a natural thing.. you just have to back up and focus on something (or someone) else until you get back in control.
- hope I helped.
2006-12-18 15:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are just much more emotional when it comes to situations like that. It's just the nature of a descent woman to feel some kind of emotional attachment to a man when she gives her body to him that's why i always say that friends with benefits usually turns out worst than anything because you have this understanding but you start to feel more and the other one doesn't it just tears you up inside and that's just not a good deal.
2006-12-18 15:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand it either but I would suggest that you not do it. I've done it and it ends in heartache all the time because us women tend to get attached for some unknown reason. Even when you have an "understanding" it still doesn't work unless you are absolutely not into the person outside of sex and the feeling is mutual.
2006-12-18 15:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by 3262m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for some people if its there first time doing something then they might want to know there's a sort of connection between them and they could want it to be special. It probably has something to do with stereo types as to why girls seem to be more vulnerable to attachment but I know a few guys who arn't like that and want to have a relationship.
2006-12-18 15:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by queens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with benefits means kissing, sex and all that but without the title of being bf/gf. But with a lot of girls once you go beyond the boundaries of friends you feel attached. I mean really, when you look for a good boyfriend you realize that you want one that's a good friend. and if you're messing around with your good friend already, sooner or later you'll fall for him because he is your friend and you know a lot about him. I avoid any kind of friends with benefits situations because as you get to know your friend you'll fall more for him and this can just mess up your friendship. Plus girls like to have a guy who's comitted and if you're messing around with your guy friend and some other guys sooner or later you're going to want some type of comittment. So you fall for them and expect to become gf/bf which doesn't work out all the time.
2006-12-18 15:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I am with my friends w/ benefits we already discuss the falling for each other...what if's...and we decide if one falls for the other then we will no longer have the sexual relationship we started out with...I have never fallen for my friends with benefits and dont think I ever will...I keep my mind focused on the main reason we are together...
2006-12-18 15:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, and as a woman myself, we tend to relate sex to emotions. For us they go hand in hand and thats why we have a hard time not getting attached. If you are intimate in any way with someone, you get attached, unless you are heartless. Men dont work that way though. Men are like robots in that manner.
2006-12-18 15:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by tatersma1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i guy wants a friend with benefits, that is all he wants and there is usually nothing more than that.... i dont know about woman but i have had friends with benefits and the girls wanted exactly the same thing i wanted, just to get off
2006-12-18 15:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think ALL are like that. i've had my fair share of "friends with benefits" and kept it like that. never had feelings for one another...but on the other hand, i've had a few that i fell for. u just have to find that right person to make a relationship like that work....otherwise, things can fall apart quickly.
2006-12-18 15:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋