2006-12-18 07:22:19 · 22 answers · asked by AMANDA B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you've had sex with him prior to this, then you should tell him from a distance with a bullet proof vest on..... If you haven't already had sex, then take him aside and tell him the truth.
2006-12-18 07:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you two have been using protection! This is a serious question that may equire a professional's answer. You should have had a talk with your partner before you decided to get serious or go any further with him. Now that there are emotions and feelings invloved, he might take the news a lot harder than you imagine. Put yourself in his shoes! You must tell him as soon as possible and hld off no longer. Sit him down with no distractions and tell him the truth. The WHOLE TRUTH. Honesty is always the best policy and maybe you two can talk this through and find a solution. Make sure that he gets tested.
2006-12-18 15:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Chelly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you haven't had sex with him yet. If you have be prepared for him to be angry or upset.
Regardless of what you have or have not done yet you need to just sit down when things are quiet and you two are alone and tell him. Try something like, "We're getting along really well and there's something you need to know before we go any farther. A few months ago I was diagnosed with HIV." Be prepared to answer questions.
No matter how he reacts know that YOU are not the virus. You are you... with a virus. if he does break up with you try and remember that he isn't rejecting YOU... he is rejecting the illness.
I am so sorry you are in this situation, but you have to tell him. Wouldn't you want to know if you were in his place?
I wish you luck, hon.
2006-12-18 15:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Directly. Well, not randomly. Make sur eyou two are in a comfortable place, preferrably alone where no one else can hear. And then just tell him that you have to tlak about something very serious and then tell him. If he loves you, he'll listen. And don't be too discouraged if he;s scared-- it's only natural to be.
Think about it this way; if you don't tell him, would you want him to be infected in the future? Or have you suddenly fade away out of no where and then he has no idea what's going on?
No matter what, you have to tell him.
2006-12-18 15:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard. I mean it depends on how long you've been dating and whether or not you've done anything with him. If you have, then he will probably freak out and be worried that he may have it too. I would explain why you waited to tell him. I mean in your situation, I would have waited until I knew him better and knew that he would accept it or not. If he cares about you then he should be able to get over the initial shock. If not, then you are better off without him and it shows that you a good person because you wanted to tell him.
2006-12-18 15:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and tell him.
My only thought is if you had unprotected sex with him beforehand then you are a terrible person that should rot in hell.
Otherwise, you just have to peel the bandaid off quick, sit down and say it like you typed it "I knew I had HIV for at least six months before I met you."
2006-12-18 15:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG...first off i want to say that my heart goes out to you for living with HIV...secondly..tell me that you havent had sex with him!! please! because if u did and didnt tell him you were HIV pos., there is NOTHING in this world that you could have done worse. you can be put in prison for doing something like that. its unfortunate that you were exposed to and contracted the virus. i dont know how you got it but tell me this..if you were neg. and he was pos. and he knew it but yet decicded to hand down a death sentence on you....would you be ok with it? how would you feel? i know im not makin you feel any better about your mistake..but my god, you may have just taken someones life ! should i be consoling you? if i was your b/f and you gave me HIV, to be completely honest with you....id do away with you...do unto others...good luck..and i pray that he doesnt have the reaper on his back now..cause its a shame when you try to love someone and they end up setting you up for the kill...
2006-12-18 15:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by mxstar71203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I would tell him as soon as possible. It is not going to get any easier to tell him the truth by waiting and if you have had sex with him then he needs to be tested as soon as possible and put on medication. Good Luck!
2006-12-18 15:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better tell him and then hope he doesnt send you to jail. Its a crime to knownly give someone an STD and with hiv its attemed muder in sure you'll like prison
2006-12-18 15:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. Be open and honest and if he has any questions, be prepared to answer him.
Also, be prepared for him to get angry, scared or annoyed. All of those are normal reactions.
Good Luck.
2006-12-18 15:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋