In my job I work with BPD women all the time and while I love my job I find these wome very frustrating. Anyone ever been in the same situation? What did you do...how did you handle women who have BPD? Thanks for the help.
2006-12-18 07:17:01 · 6 answers · asked by Tiggers 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Having both had BPD myself and worked with other who have it I can assure you it is not an easy situation to be in; however, many women (and men) recover from this often dibilitating illness. I suggest checking out the book Walking on Eggshells (I can't remember who wrote it). When working with these people remember that it is truly them have a problem not you and that if they lash out at you or try to manipulate you it, 9 times out of 10, means they want your approval or reassurance that you will not abandon them...its not to be mean or evil. This group of people, people with BPD, are truly a very difficult group to be around but once they learn the correct coping skills and begin to recover they make the best of friends. Good luck and remember it will get better.
2006-12-18 07:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by ruthbeckersc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never worked with someone like that. I have had a romantic relationship with someone like that. I got out and stayed away.
This is a condition that is very hard to diagnose. How do you know that these women you work with have it? Have them been diagnosed or are they just bitchy woman? You may be working with some unpleasant even nasty people but it would be very odd if you worked with more than one person who actually had BPD, unless you work in the mental health field.
2006-12-18 07:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked with adolscence that have a personality disorder and it is very draining. It does something to me knowing that a person is trying to trick me and in some weird way want me to find out. I couldn't handle it so i got out of the profession and moved onto something which i acutally enjoy.
2006-12-18 07:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I currently work with a person like that -- it is like walking barefoot iin a room where you know there is broken glass.
You can't do anything to please him, and you never know what will set him off.
If he is behind on his work and you attempt to help him get caught up, he gets upset because we are meddling.
If you don't help him he gets upset because you are just sitting there and not helping him.
Last spring he was on vacation for a week. I busted butt doing all of my work as well has his. I know it's a drag coming back from vacation and being a week behind on your work. When he came back on Monday morning, he was caught up, absolutely nothing to do. He was mad because I had ruined his chances of getting any overtime that week, but over the course of the weekend my work had piled up. Do you think he helped me get caught up? Nope -- he instead got permissoin from the boss to leave early, since he was caught up wiith his work.
Go figure. . .
2006-12-18 07:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by Joe B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with this disorder can be highly manipulative, without empathy for others and little to no conscience. The best thing that you can do is to maintain firm boundaries and stay professional with these clients at all times.
2006-12-18 07:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by maggiepirsq 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I lived with a person, my wife and it is hell. You begin to think your crazy the lies over and over again. I have never met anyone like that before and hope I never do again.
2015-10-23 15:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by john 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋