I have been searching the web to find out what you can do about your child abusing you.?

Question

The only info I have found is about parents abusing there children. If anyone knows where I could find info about what you can do about your child abusing you pysically and purpossly breaking laws you ruin you financally. need help

one more thing the child in question is my boyfriends. not mine daisy

17 and 8 months old

Answer 1

look up out of control kids,or unruly kids, best thing to do is turn him over to the police file unruly on them ,

Answer 2

Your boyfriend should already be stepping up to the plate on this one. If he's not, maybe the whole relationship needs re-evaluation. There's no pride in sufferage.
Options: F.I.N.S. petition for the father (Families In Need) it's a court ordered paper that says if the kid doesn't straighten up, he'll find himself at the mercy of the court. You get these free of charge from the county or district's Juvenile Intake Officer. (Consequences of violating a FINS could lead to youth detention facilities or other programs of the like)
Options: Leave.
Options: Make them leave.
Options: Call police and let child know he will not continue to act this way without severe consequences. The police may tell you to initiate a FINS petition, asking the court to back up your authority for out of control kids.
Options: Change the locks on the house. Then prepare to call the police when he causes a scene.
Options: Tell yourself you love this man enough to get pummelled by his child and that it's only for a little while longer until the child moves out on his own.
Options: Convince yourself it's not really THAT bad and just walk on egg shells making sure you don't upset or offend the kid again.

I'd go for the first few options. This kid is probably going to be a FATHER some day. Do you want this kid thinking this kind of control is okay or are you going to be the one to say NO MORE!

Good luck!

Answer 3

I went through an exceptionally bad period when my son was abusing me after I divorced.

I was lucky in that the juvenile courts in Seattle have a program called Step-Up. Courts order children and parents to attend together. It is a training program that first tells the kid violence is illegal and wrong then teaches the kids other types of behavior they can have and use when they are angry or upset. Great program.

I did call the police several times. They warned him and took him to the station but have not yet booked him. If he threatens me or abuses me again I will file a report against him.

I had to learn that I am worthy of respect and love. It doesn't help that his dad was abusive to me and my son learned this behavior, but that can't be a justification for me accepting being abused by my teen.

I have learned how to parent more firmly, create boundaries, to love myself and love my son enough to say NO. Good luck on this very difficult and important lesson.

Answer 4

well first I would talk to your boyfriend about it. If he wont do anything about it and the child is over 11 or so, I would call the police and report it as domestic abuse. The police will have a nice talk to the child about the situation and the penalties if he continues. They may even take him into custody for the night, that should scare the crap out of him. He may think twice next time. You gotta protect yourself, if your boyfriend doesnt care, then maybe you should just leave him and move on. NO ONE deserves to be hit.

Answer 5

One child is 17, the other 8 months? Make the 17 year old pay rent, or out he goes. His choice. The rent payment can go towards paying the bills he accumulates. As for the 8 month old, protect him! Contact NACD.ORG to see if they can help prevent this problem with the younger child.

Answer 6

If your child is a teen, then you need to emancipate him, which will involve the courts. That way you're not resposible for his actions. If need be, call the police, don't put up with that. If he's 18 and above, call the police and have him arrested, then make sure all his stuff is out of your house. Time for some "tough love". Hopefully he won't abuse his girlfriends or future wife. Best of luck to you..........

Answer 7

No matter how old your child is - he/she needs help. Your child has issues! You need to contact DYFS so that there is a history on record and so that he/she doesn't turn around and say you are hurting them. Then, when the next incident occurs, if your child is hurting your physicially, you need to go to police, show them the bruies - and have him/her taken away. I know this is hard -but your child needs intervention beyond what you can give him/her.

Answer 8

You don't mention how old your child is, but feel free to call the cops if he or she is that out of control. I know it's hard but assaulting your parents is not okay. You need to show this kid that you're still the one in control. If your kid ends up in legal trouble, I say the best thing is not to run to get him or her out of it. Your child needs to learn that there are consequences for actions.

Answer 9

You can go to dogpile.com and be very specific in your search. Also, depending on the kids age, they could go to a juvenile detention center or even a boarding school(or camp). Do something NOW b-4 it's too late and ur kid is a hardened criminal.

Answer 10

That changes very thing. If he lives in your house make him pay for some of the rent of throw him out with his stuff. Talk to your bf and see what he says. You just might have to lose your bf if your protection and safty is at risk.

Answer 11

I just went on-line and found a web-site:

www.olderadoption.com/
challenges/childrenabusing.htm

I put in the websearch - children abusing parents

good luck with your situation