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Now, after answering that question separately, answer this one:
What if I said that I started going out with this girlfriend the same way, meaning that she had another boyfriend at the time I started seeing her and eventually broke up with him after a couple of months? Do you think I still have a right to be mad at those guys whom my girlfriend was cheating with?
Finally, what if I had cheated on my girlfriend in the past as well, but was very discreet about it, never lied to her, the cheatings were meaningless (sex with someone only ONCE while vacationing away from home) and I cheated on her despite knowing that I truly loved her? What rights do I have then?
2006-12-18 07:00:45 · 12 answers · asked by Sep S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
K, just to let you know, I have learned from my mistake, and I now believe in Karma! I won't ever cheat again. However, I disagree with the person who says that if I cheated on her, that means i really don't love her.
2006-12-18 07:04:49 · update #1
I love it when people make moral judgements on me. How dare you!
2006-12-18 07:08:02 · update #2
Seriously, if you want a serious relationship, cheating is not an option. You need to look at the signs. You were with another woman, and she was with another man. You moved away. Go on with your life. Forget about her and move on. She wasn't "the one." If you don't want to settle down, then date whomever you want. The point is, that it's over. Have some self respect and find someone new. She has demonstrated that she does not value your relationship very much if she cheated on you, so find someone who does value you. AND find someone you value so you don't risk it all for meaningless sex while you are on vacation. If the sex was meaningless and you risked your relationship with her for that.... what does that make your relationship?
2006-12-18 07:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 opinions on this topic my first is from experience. my mom and step dad where the product of cheating spouses and they are still together and it has been almost 20 years. my other opinion is you 2 need to get away from each other. even if you love her and she loves you the behaviors you are displaying are destructive and if you were to have children they would be caught in the middle for sure. ask yourself "how many times to we fight or argue in a month?" whether it is about cheating or whatever. i bet you would say quite a bit. and i think if you have to fight over things all the time it is not worth it because LOVE does NOT hurt. good luck and happy holidays=)
2006-12-18 07:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, the best thing to do is to just let her go. That way you won't ever have to worry about that again. Don't be mad at the other guys, they didn't have the commitment to you.....but she did. Don't worry about your past, it's obvious you can't trust her anymore, and if it was with 2 guys, well, there may be more that you don't know about. Let her go before she gives you a disease. Long distance relationships very seldom work out. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-18 07:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have no right to be mad. You have no right to have a girlfriend who truly cares about you and only you. You obviously have no heart or no moral values when it comes to relationships. It sounds like you and this cheating girlfriend are perfect for each other.
2006-12-18 07:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your girlfriend, not your wife. What are you hoping to happen 3 years from now? Think about it. What are you in this relationship for?
You don't sound like a couple that's really in love, so either keep the booty call friend, or move on.
2006-12-18 07:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by VirtualElvis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you(or anyone else for that matter) cheat then you do NOT love the person you are with. True Love does NOT involve a third person. Cheating is a sign that you do NOT love the other person!!
2006-12-18 07:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her then you Will forgive and move on from cheating. At times we do things we don't mean. You can love someone but you may still cheat. Don't confuse love, and lust.
2006-12-18 07:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
none dog, suck it up and move on, or keep going as if you never found anyhting out. If you bring this to her attention it will only end up in lots of arguments and stress, crying and possibly depression on both parts.
2006-12-18 07:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by michael f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was her not them. You just move on and be glad you found out. I was in your shoes not to long ago and it's better to just forget her and go on with your life. Find someone honest and single.
Don't let her turn you into me.
2006-12-18 07:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was the surprise to you? She was a cheater once a cheater always a cheater
2006-12-18 07:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋