Call me old-fashioned but to me the first date the guy pays. To me it'd be just awkward to offer to split or whatever on a first date, especially if the guy asks you out.
On the second date I'd be happy to invite. But I've come to notice that some guys think that if you don't offer to pay you're expecting them to always pay and that you're going live off his salary or something. It's sort of a bad first impression. I wanted to see if I was wrong about that.
If I asked the guy out, that's a whole other story (that rearely happens, though, I mean girl asking guy out). I'd pay beacuse I suggested going out.
Ultimately the one that asks out, pays the bill.
Where do you stand?
2006-12-18 06:52:07 · 12 answers · asked by mackenzie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in my opinion, every date the man should pay.
it's out of love and consideration as well as respect.
he is catering the woman when you ask them out therefore
he must pay.
but even if you ask him out it's out of respect for the woman that the man should pay.
it's went to through generations. to show individual status, the man either brought in the food money and gifts for the lady.
2006-12-18 06:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by stonehenge17 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm old fashioned too and I think the guy should pay for the first date, especially if he asked you out. Now it is a new century and I would not mind paying on future dates, but he should pay for the first one. I'd offer to pick the next date and pay for it. I guess it work better if who ever asked payed for the date, but if the guy always asked it might not work. Either way, I think he should pay for the first date.
2006-12-18 07:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he ask you out? If so, then he should pay. On a second date, or maybe even if you invited him, then split the bill. I'm traditional too, and the guy has to pay first because otherwise I think he expects from me and I don't like that- it was his idea and it shows a lack of interest and a lack of substantial funding. If he objects, move on or talk to him about what you think is right and where you stand. Good luck
2006-12-18 06:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think demonstrations of good will, open-mindedness, and unselfishness are important virtues to demonstrate, by both parties, on a first date. I do believe, even with my friends, that whomever asks, drives, when we go out to do things. On dates, whomever asks, the girl hopes the guy will pay anyway ;-). The guy opening doors (car and building), moving to pay dinner/movie, etc. are important. However, I think women also have an important role to play as well (and mind you, "role to play" is merely a play on words as neither of you should be minding "roles" nor "playing-acting" on a date). If a guy opens your car door to let you in, and even if he does not, you should demonstrate the type of person you are and at least attempt/try to push open his door. As to responding to the actual question at hand; I always go prepared to pay for everything on the date, but it's very nice when my date shows willingness to pay for all or part of the costs. I went on a date once where I payed for dinner, and then my date wanted ice cream, while I wanted coffee. These were both sold at the same place, and she quickly grabbed her own cash and paid for both items. I thought this was the coolest thing ever, and it allowed me to not feel emasculated (and I think it would have been silly anyway if I had felt emasculated in that situation), and it showed that she was a caring and genuine person, and someone whom I'd be lucky to keep dating.
2016-05-23 04:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got it together. The person asking should pay. If in doubt, if I were you I'd say, in a sweet voice, "would you like me to pay for half the meal?". If the guy is a "gentleman" he'll decline or if he believes a woman should share he'll appreciate you bringing it up so he doesn't' have to appear as a cheapo. If he IS a cheapo you'll figure it out soon enough and can dump him. Good luck!
2006-12-18 07:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Michael da Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that whoever does the asking, should do the paying... and, call me old-fashioned, but I think the guy should ask her out.... the girl could pay sometimes, but not on the first date..
2006-12-18 06:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly where you stand. If he asks you out then he better pay or it will be a first and last date. If it's a mutual thing, say hey do you want to meet me for lunch and we can go dutch, that's another thing or if you bluntly ask him out someplace then expect to pay but most guys won't let a woman pay.
2006-12-18 06:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by Satin Sheets 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitley on the first date the asker pays. I asked my boyfriend on our first date and I paid, even though he didnt want me to. haha I think its your obligation to pay if you ask and i think if the relationship continues taking turns paying or splitting bills is the right thing to due then you dont feel obligated or anything.
2006-12-18 06:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you out he should pay for the entire date. If you go out again then you can offer to pay.
The one who did the asking for the first date should pay!
2006-12-18 06:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, no I would NEVER NEVER pay.. ESPECIALLY on the first date.
If he's that cheap, he should not be asking folks out...
Now, maybe when I was in college, but actually, I just have never paid, and I would never ask a guy out.
If a guy expected me to pay, I would be insulted and would never never date him again.
I think give the man room to be a gentleman.. they like that.
2006-12-18 06:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋