Too Jealous for my own good.I dont even want my boyfriend looking at other females or talking to them.?

Question

I KNOW I HAVE A PROBLEM! Please No rude answers! Im jealous, so jealous I dont want him talking to any other woman as well as looking.It drives me crazy! Ugly or pretty is just dosent matter.Like if were watching a movie and naked girl pops up I just get insanely jealous! And if he likes the movie,its worst becus I think that was his favorite part in the movie! Im afraid he might find another girl pretty or prettier then me.We have been together for 2 years & a half.Its come to the point where he wont even watch movies just to please me and he wont talk to other females or even look at them! He dosent even hang out! And I feel really really bad. I dont want to have him like this.Its not fair and its not how he should have to live his life.I want to change 4 the better.Can someone please tell me how do I stop being jealous like this?! Guys, what do you think when you see a naked girl in a movie.Do you think about it later or compare her to your girl?Girls HELP!!

Answer 1

for starters... you're so lucky!! i WISH i had a guy who'd do all that for me. he secludes himself to make u happy -- ur so lucky! if you think about it, that really shows his commitment to you and to pleasing you. i know it must be really hard, but you have to try to trust him. have more confidence in yourself -- you're hot! he wouldnt trade u for another girl! (plus, you KNOW he wouldnt trade u for another girl b/c look at everything he's done for u!!)

also, even if you ARE jealous, try not to let it show. even though it may not seem like your boyfriend minds, it probably bothers him a little so try to keep it to yourself or write in a diary how much it hurts you -- but don't always tell him.

its really impressive that you can say you have a problem, but what's even more impressive is if you really try your hardest to fix it. honestly (and i know isaid this b4 but im saying it again) he loves u. he secluded himself and doesnt talk to girls or watch movies JUST TO PLEASE U. that is so amazing. he's obviously not out to find other girls, so if u see one talking to him you dont need to worry.

IF u do see him talking to another girl, you can 100% march up to them and make it clear that he's YOUR man (while still being nice and sweet of course). you don't want to smother him so you need to let him out lol. if he's willing to do all that stuff (mentioned b4) to make YOU happy, there is no way he's going to fall for another girl. you got him hooked!!

ps -- i HATE when people give rude answers - anyone who does i'm going to give a thumbs down to.

i hope that everything works out -- just remember, have confidence in yourself and in the fact that your boyfriend loves u. learn to trust him -- thats the most important thing.

Answer 2

don't be jealous of his female friends, u mean it sucks that you can't see his for a month but you can't be jealous of them. so what if most of his friends are girls and none are you. it's not good to be that jealous about someone else like that. the real question is do you trust him, even with all of his female friends, if you truly don't then there might be more issues you should deal with. why don't you just talk to him. in a way i think he has a right to know, don't you think, i mean sure he might think you are being silly or over reacting, but at least you get something that troubles you off you chest and he will know how you feel, what else are you supposed to do, sit around and get jealous all that time which causes more problems then solve.

Answer 3

Wow... I dont think you'll be able to just wake up one day and not be jealous. I think you need to see a councelor. I think it would be good for you. There may be underlying issues that sparked this.

Maybe your father wasnt around? or a really close person left you at some point? You've scared yourself into believing that if he even looks at someone than he will leave because they're better than you. That is not true - something from your past is doing this to you. My opinion anyway.

Ask your boyfriend to go with you to talk to someone. It may be the only way for you to get some real help that will fix the problem.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Girls generally get jealous a lot about such stuff. That is ok! I had to fix a jealousy problem too even though I am a guy. My jealousy lost my girlfriend because I boxed her in basically. What I did was back off and realize that I am not married and I do not own this person. They have a right to do whatever they want. On the other hand, it is my job not to strangle them to death but to love them so much that they want only me. Despite the naked girl on television or the friends he has, he would want only me. He wants me because he sees how much I love him in so many different ways. How much I sacrifice for him, he cannot get elsewhere. You are holding to this guy as if he is your life. Instead, you need to just recognize that life is more than this guy. Sometimes, you may lose one, but if you loved him and he loses you, he may come crawling back on hands and knees. Then he would be yours forever!

Answer 5

Well I'm glad to hear that you accept that you have a problem. That's a good start. You have insecurity problems. You think that every woman around you is better than you and that your boyfriend might leave you for another girl.

Sorry to tell you, but anywhere you go, there will be women around you. How do you know what your boyfriend is thinking? You can't judge him because you don't live in his brain. Plus looking is natural. We all look at other people but checking out another girl or flirting is different.

You have to realize what you're worth because if you don't, he will get fed up and leave you one day. Jealousy destroys relationships.

Answer 6

Horrible problem. I used to get jealous as well. For me it was because I was very insecure about myself and my body and didn't feel I was good enough. The only problem is jealousy will most likely drive your boyfriend away - not because he wants someone prettier (what is prettier anyway - everyone likes something different so what you consider prettier he could consider ugly!!) There really is much much more to what he see's in you than your prettiness! My boyfriend isn't what you'd call classically handsome be he really is the most Gorgeous thing in the world to me (that's love!!) I really feel for your problem and I think you have to figure out what is causing it, perhaps talk to your boyfriend about it so he understands and can help. I'm still with my boyfriend because he made me realise that my jealousy was driving him away. After a while I gained confidence in my self and in my boyfriend who has proved to me that he deserves my trust. Good luck - I hope you can get to the root of the problem. Your boyfriend must be very in to you if he is trying so hard to please you.

Answer 7

Yes, that kind of behavior is definitely annoying and not good for the relationship. When I see a movie with a naked girl, I DON'T compare her to my fiance. How old is your boyfriend by the way? We are human so seeing an attractive person, naked or otherwise, is going to stimulate us. We may find them attractive but that doesn't mean we're going to chase after it.
Sounds like there are major trust issues in the relationship. If you can't trust him with something simple like watching a movie with girls in it, then the relationship is definitely doomed to fail. Trust is key to any healthy relationship.
I would recommend seeing a family therapist. I say this because my fiance is one and has talked with dozens of teenage girls struggling with the same issues. I can give you her contact info. if you're interested. It can help! :)

Answer 8

I think that you need a reality check and check your self confidence and your trust in him. Like i understand the fact that you dont want him to find someone else, but you need the trust factor in your relationship where you have been to gether for more than two years you should know waht he thinks and even express what you feel about him talking to other girls yada yada. I sometimes even get jealous, but its a fact that you have to live with and i'm sure he loves you and he doesnt konw you think this way.

Answer 9

I can tell you this....from reading your question, I can tell some man cheated on you and messed you up emotionally...One thing you need to learn is that what you had with that cheater is an experience and you need to learn from that and move on....Your behavior will drive a man to cheat...Believe it or not, you can never prevent someone from looking at another person whether you are with him or not, that will never happened, he will only come up with a clever way of doing it to make you happy....You are making this man miserable..I don't know how someone can stay with you and your are like that...You need to heal emotionally from your past relationship(s) then get into a relationship and you need to forgive that person who hurt you and move on and learn from your mistakes and his..

Every relationship you enter is an experience, you take the bad out of your past relationship and learn from the mistakes that were made on both parts....

You need to learn to relax and know, no matter what you do, if a man wants to cheat or any body for that matter, they will find a way...You cannot stop a person from cheating.....All you can do is keep GOD in your life and pray to get the jealous rage out of your life and just change yourself or you will end up a miserable old woman with no one on your side.....

Good Luck

Answer 10

I can relate to you. I have the same problem. It is childish and it dominates what should be good times. I can;t help myself sometimes because at times I believe he does it purposely.

What you need to do is try to start trusting him. I am trying to do that. And instead of being insecure, try to be grateful that I am the one who has his love.

Your guy has done all he can to keep you happy (mine hasn't- he still go out, speaks to the girls, etc.) but when you really love someone you need to accept- if not like- all about them.

Now when he speaks to girls, I make it clear that I am his fiance and the mother of his son. It will not stop him from finding someone else if he wants to or being unfaithful, but at least this way, I at mostly at peace with him and myself and I can really build my life and memories!!!

I believe your guy really loves you. Cut him some slack and good luck.