What is the earliest age that someone should be angaged?

Question

I love my boyfriend. I know that he wants to get married. We've only been dating like 4 months but he said that he only wants to fall in love with one person and he has with me. I'm 17. i'm pretty sure when he does ask me it will be in one year. My friend thinks that maybe 18 is a little too early cause she wants to be forsure 19. I think its not too young but some people think it is. My boyfriend hasn't really talked about an age. I'm pretty sure if we were dating longer now he would ask me. so since him and I are ok with it then it doens't really matter what some one else thinks right?

Answer 1

i think you should be old enough to spell engaged before it happens. other than that, you know in your heart when the time is right, so listen to whatever doubts you have in your heart.

Answer 2

I would say a good appropriate age to get married is when you have accomplished certain things such as high school and college. It is More realistic to get married after you have had some life experiences other than you relationship. There is no rush and you should enjoy the dating period and just have fun. Marriage is alot of work and responsibility. I know I have been married 9 years. It is not as romantic as it may seem at the young age of seventeen.. If I would have married the boy I dated in high school at the age of 17 and 18, and I thought he was going to be my future husband, I would have never met my wonderful husband and I would have never experienced college and traveling and all that fun stuff you do as a single gal. Just relax and have fun right now. You really don't want to start such a serious commitment just yet.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Hello... =)

One must remember that Love has nothing to do with age, but being able to support one's family has a great deal to do with age.

In America, up until the Civil War, it was common to get married as early as 12 or 14. Romeo and Juliet were 15, and 14, respectively, however, and you know how well that went over (dead, dead, dead)....

If the two of you are mature and responsible, then now is not too early. If you are not, however, then it is much too early.

One must bear in mind that if you get "engaged" before age 18, you will likely have to conceal it from family and friends until you are 18.

At 18, you are of legal age to do as you please.

Namaste,

--Tom

Answer 5

If it doesn't matter then why are you asking? Obviously your unsure. 26 is the earliest in my opinion. I don't think anyone who hasn't lived on their own and paid their own bills has any right to enter into a lifetime relationship with anyone. You need to figure out what your likes / dislikes are. I'm sure you're no different then any other 17-19 year old who thinks they already know everything so I'm sure you'll do this anyway and I wasted my typing for nothing.

Answer 6

What's the rush? If he loves you and you love him, that won't change for another four or five years while you finish your education and maybe go to grad school. My advice would be to live life a little, travel and see the world. You have a lifetime before you will be straddled with caring for a husband and eventually babies. Marriage is a lot of work, it's not all gushy feelings and great sex, it's dealing with attitudes and babies and bills and money problems and well I'm tired just thinking about it. So do yourself a favor and wait awhile. If it's true love and it's meant to be, it will stand the test of time. Good luck.

Answer 7

The fact that you have to ask is your little alarm right there.

No one has to be married to be a whole person. Also marriage is a very sacred union. People run to the Altar too fast with out thinking on it first. If you take you taime and you do marry you will know you did it for all the right reasons.

If it is right you will have the rest of your lives to spend together. If you are seriously considering this check with a marriage counselor or your church leader.

Answer 8

You should be 18 or older, and you should be together for at least a year if your young especially since he hasn't ever been in love. He doesnt know what its like to be in love so how would he know if your the real deal? I dont know if you have thought you loved a guy before but I seriously dated 3 guys I thought i was in love with and dated them all for more than 4 months and either fell out of love or it turned out it wasnt love just lust, or in one case i realised i just wanted someone to love me and he was a jackass. so you need to withstand the test of time, meet the extended families go to family events together go shopping together go on a road trip sleep in the same bed. You may find yuo cant live with him, or THAT HES PERFECT:) haha Test your relationship and have fun and if hes having fun too its probably the right decision.

Answer 9

I think 18 is a fine age to get engaged but make it a long engagement so that you can both get your lives straight and be sure your wanting to spend the rest of your lives with each other. Your too young to jump into anything. If your meant to be, dating should be fine till you both decide about career and college issues.

Answer 10

Depends in what country, as some of the Islam counties are still get their children married at 12...You can get engaged - and set a marriage date couple years in the future, so you have time to make sure you do want to marry this guy and you can earn some money and plan your wedding in a meanwhile..

Answer 11

Well you friend is not in love YOU ARE. I think that ur at a good age to be engaged. Its wen you get merried . Like getting merried at 18 will be hard for you maybe 20 is good. You can be engaged and be happy. Wait till you have all your things together, your career especially. But in the end no i think its good. Good Luck!!!