What to do?

Question

A guy I have been seeing's grandmother passed away last night. I want to do something to let him know I'm thinking about him. What should I do?

Answer 1

I know it sounds cliche but just be there for him. If he was close to his grandmother, he'll be pre-occupied with his own thoughts and he doesn't necessarily need you to do anything. Just be available for him to talk to. If he starts talking about his grandmother, listen intently and encourage him to go on. He'll appreciate you being there for him. Above all remember that this day is about him, so let him choose whether he wants to see you or not, talk this out, or hold it in. Just let him know you're there for him, but at the same time stay out of his way if that's what he wants. Respect his feelings, he'll appreciate that.

Depending on whether he likes those sort of things, you can send him flowers, or at least a sympathy card, but not all guys are into that, so you'll know better whether to do this or not.

Answer 2

First let him know you are there for him. Help out at his house as right now they will need someone. Cook a meal for them as most of the time that seems to go by and not taking care of their health isn't good either but at a time like this most people don't stop to make dinner. Help with chores around the house. Gather the flowers and things people bring and organize things, anything you can do to make their life a little comfortable right now will be greatly appreciated and he'll see this. He may actually get closer to you because you pitched in and took control over other things instead of being in the background. But above all else let him know you are there for him when he needs you the most.

Answer 3

Hello.. =)

I would suggest going by the house, and talking with him. Bring a gift of food for the family...(old tradition, and usually very much appreciated).......something like a cookie tray, veggie tray, or something similar.

Ask him if it would be ok if you came to the Viewing (or wake) if there is going to be one, because you'd like to be there for him. When you get there, get him out of the grieving room for a while, for a walk around the block, or a talk in another room, or your car, or whatever.

Not to sound mercenary, but you can use this opportunity to bring the two of your closer together, and provide compassionate support to him at the same time.

Namaste,

--Tom

Answer 4

Well when my Great Grandma died I really wanted a lot of attention, especially since her and I were really really close. What you should do is do whatever you can to be with him to keep him company because when someone you luv dies, you feel really alone...so the more attention the better.

Answer 5

Send him a text or ring him. Or take a sympathy card round his house. You should do something though as he'd probably appreciate that fact that you are thinking of him.

Answer 6

Just be there for him, if he wants you to be. Let him know that you do care about him and try not to say anything that would upset him.

Answer 7

that's a sensitive subject. I wld say just be there when he needs to tlk. Make sure he's ok. Help him with watever he needs help wit. Even give him space if he needs it and watever type of attitude he has just understand becuz of wat he is going through.

Answer 8

Just be there at his side to support him. It's the best thing you can do.

Answer 9

BE THERE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE AND IF HE DOESNT WANT YOU AROUND THEN DONT KEEP BEIN IN HIS FACE HE MIGHT JUST NEED TIME TO HIMSELF SO DONT TAKE IT PERSONAL


OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Be there for him