I can understand guys not taking you seriously if you are out at the bar and draping yourself over any body with testosterone, or if you are an excessive flirt. I am neither of these things. I am a responsible, attractive girl who is very down to earth with respectable values. I don't sleep around, in fact I hardly get any sort of action these days because any guy who I have gained interest in doesn't think of me as "dating material". They are attracted to me, would sleep with me, would be friends with me, but would not seriously date me. There are a couple of guys who I know would take me seriously, but I have no attraction to them. So my question is, how do I get a guy to take me seriously in a relationship and not just think of me as a booty call. This isn't geared towards a specific, just in general when I first meet any guy etc.
2006-12-18 06:04:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well to be seen as a booty call you'd have to be sleeping around, which you say you are not. If a guy is interested in you, take time to get to know him. Have him take you out on several dates/outings BEFORE you sleep with him. What we don't understand (as women) is that men read us by how we treat ourselves! If we don't value or protect ourselves, then neither will they. If we are too prudish we give off a sense of being closed (which some guys find as a challenge) and if we are too open we are seen as easy, hence, expected to accept a booty call situation.
What you should do is reevaluate how you see yourself. Decide what do you want men to see you as and behave accordingly. Whatever you do, don't settle. When you settle for less than you deserve, you get less than you settled for. Good luck.
2006-12-18 06:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There can be many factors at work here, or it may be as easy as you just found the "right" guy yet.
Things to consider:
1) Where do you meet these men who won't date you? Being a guy (and an ex-bartender), bars are good for "the hook-up" not the settle down meeting.
2) How old are they? The younger, the more they want to roam the fields, so to speak.
3) Do you truly have anything in common? When a man thinks about spending actual time with a girl, there must be things of common interest. A movie you both like is one thing, but a real interest that runs through both of your lives is crucial. Health and working-out; reading and literature; a sporting activity that you both actively play; same careers; etc...
I hope that I may helped. Lastly, it is my belief is that there is not just one man for one woman, but a desire to be with only one person must be present first for anything to truly begin. After that, it is all about finding the right combination of intersts at the right time.
Good luck!
2006-12-18 06:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by Shane O'Rion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're incorrect. we do not equate promiscuity with booty call cloth. Nor can we equate chastity with spouse cloth. We merely want a lady who's gentle inclusive of her sexual nature and not in any respect afraid as an example it to us. She would have had 30 previous fans, or none. it doesn't count. as long as she is going to positioned out for us and luxuriate in it. and that is only somewhat about the sexual fringe of the alternative. there's a lot more beneficial to determining on a spouse than that.
2016-11-27 02:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wrote...
They are attracted to me, would sleep with me, would be friends with me, but would not seriously date me. There are a couple of guys who I know would take me seriously, but I have no attraction to them.
Therin lies your problem.
You are attracted to the punk *** guys that just want to play.
The age old question...why can't I find a nice guy. Answer: Because you are not attracted to those guys.
So the answer and the problem lies with you.
Demand to be treated like a lady by acting like a lady.
You might just find that 'perfect guy' in the unlikliest of guys.
2006-12-18 06:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
when first meeting/getting to know a guy you might be interested in, make sure to highlight assets other than just how hot you are. put the emphasis on the conversation and finding things you have in common instead of on making yourself as 'cute' as possible while you're talking.
2006-12-18 06:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably it has to do with the way you act and behave. I mean some girls are or appear to me as they only want to be slept with and nothing more. And again others appear datable. The fact that you mentioned as flirting a lot.....that is interpreted as....."hey dude...you can sleep with me..right now"...so probably you might need to act the way datable girls/woman act.....you probably already know the act....I believe.
2006-12-18 06:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you meet guys, ask them just exactly what is it that they're looking for in a relationship? Their answers will tell you if you should keep dating them or move on.
2006-12-18 06:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be straight forward and ask what they are interested in and then give your point of view on what you are seeking..cuts down on the booty calls a lot that way
2006-12-18 06:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk ot the guys about a relationship before you sleep with them.
2006-12-18 06:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by J P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try and find someone who shares mutual interests.join a club or do volunteer work if you are looking for a compassionate guy.
2006-12-18 06:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋