My mom says no decent guy would marry a girl with a tattoo. I dont really think that it should matter what the women has on her body if the man really cares for her.
2006-12-18 06:00:32 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
That's just your mother trying a scare tactic to keep you from getting one.
People don't get or NOT get tattoos FOR other people, they get them for themselves and if anyone doesn't like it...you know what to tell them they can kiss.
When I got my eyebrow pierced my boss at work said, "No man thinks that's attractive." And my response was, "I didn't get this for a man. I don't NEED a man to make me feel good about myself."
Tell mom to come up with another reason why you shouldn't get one...then let her know you are your own person and if you want a tattoo and it makes you happy, then you can make yourself happy and don't care if you ever get married or not.
Because marrying a man that didn't like ANY part of you, or would tell you what you can or cannot do with your body or wants to change you in any way, as a matter of fact, isn't a decent husband to start with...and you don't need that.
My husband and I BOTH have tattoos...and we are BOTH decent people. I do charity work for the environment, am highly spiritual and he is the most decent human being I've ever met.
2006-12-18 06:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Chick-A- Deedle 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think that statement is a little far-fetched. I know plenty of decent people who are married to other decent people who happen to have tattoos.
Are you planning on getting a tattoo? If you are just curious about this fact, don't mind this next comment, but if you are considering a tattoo, the last thing you should be thinking about is "Will one guy or a group of guys not want to marry me becasue I get this tattoo."
A tattoo is part of who a person is, and if someone doesn't like a girl for a tattoo, a person really doesn't like the girl at all. Just because some people object, doesn't mean the whole world will. And what the world wants shouldn't matter. If you want a tattoo, go for it! The only person who is entitled to care is yourself.
If a decent guy will never marry a girl with tattoos, then there must be a **** load of single women in this world, because nowadays, tattoos are VERY popular.
2006-12-18 06:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by *CaRpE*DiEm* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a few things ... what is it and where is it? I have 2 kids, neither of which has tattoos ... yet. We've talked about it and I always tell them to think about what your tattoo will look like when your 80, and I let them decide. They're both old enough to get one without my wife's or my approval.
I've seen some absolutely beautiful, large tattoos on some women ... they're not biker babes ... just regular women. I've also seen some that I'm sure the person has regretted getting. There's nothing like going to a formal Christmas party given by your boss and seeing some guy's wife show in a spaghetti strap gown with a fiery skull on her shoulder or maybe he's got a Swastika on the back of his hand. Nice!
2006-12-18 06:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married at the end of this year, and I am heavily tattooed, and my fiance is a "decent guy" (marine that did a 2 year tour in Iraq, and he is adopting my son from a previous relationship). So I would have to say that it is possibly that your mom just does not want you to get a tattoo, and that reason is the best way to scare you. I love all of my ink, and I would not trade it for anything (or anyone) and if you DO have a tattoo, and a guy will not date you because of it, would you really want to date someone that is shallow enough to say no just because of a tattoo that is a part of who you are?
2006-12-18 06:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is wrong. She is judging others by stereotyping them. I know plenty of "decent guys" who date girls with tattoos and have plenty of tattoos themselves. Ultimately it's a personal choice, just as hair color, clothing style and personality type that people look for in a partner. If someone won't marry you because you have a tattoo, would you honestly want to marry them in the first place? Getting a tattoo is a personal decision and anyone who judges people with tattoos is being racist because of the "color" on their skin. Being inked doesn't change who you are on the inside.
2006-12-18 08:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by rockerchic821 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive talked to a few guys about this and it really just depends on the guy. Some guys like girls who have tattoos and others do not. Many guys think a womans body is beautiful being natural but in the end its really up to you.
2006-12-18 07:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by luv4jesus87 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, that's odd. My husband married me, and my father married my mother, and both she and I have tattoos. Both my father and my husband are strong Christian men, and are well respected both at their jobs, and communities. They are both college educated professionals, and they both love and adore their tattooed wives. I'm not sure what your mother's ideal of a "decent guy" is, but I think it deems reconsideration. There are many decent guys that not only have tattoos themselves, but would also (and have!) married women with tattoos. I suppose it is a subjective matter, but I would say overall your mother's generalization of "decent guys" relative to tattoo'd women, is a bit bias and overly critical. My personal opinion on women with tattoos, is that a lady should always keep her "wild side" a bit hidden from society. Neither mine or my mother's tattoos are visible to anyone but ourselves (and those we care to share them with). I don't feel it is ladylike to "wear your heart on your sleeve" (pun intended)! But that is my choice, and one I will share and hopefully instill in my daughter in regards to tattoos. However everyone is different, and I can respect that others share a different viewpoint, and are entitled to as well. I don't think that men that love the women with visible tattoos are all in-decent, but then again that would be an individual assertation of the women and men involved in the judgement call. And to support your opinion, if a man really loves a woman, it shouldn't matter what she has on her body.
2006-12-18 06:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by spamneggzzz 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
your mom is just scaring you because she doesnt want you to get a tattoo. its a personal choice and it has nothing to do with finding a decent man. plus, you should know that women has the right to choose any decent man she wants, she doesnt have to wait to be picked up by one. so if a guy will judge you from appearance and wouldnt marry you just because you have tattoos, tough s.h.i.t, they are just not man enough to accept a girl's wild side. because a REAL DECENT MAN is the man who loves you inside out and will never judge you for who you are or who you've become.
2006-12-18 19:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a decent man and he has tattoo's and loves mine. Decent men come in all forms, it depends on what you want. Just because someone is pierced or tattooed means nothing, most people I know who are tattooed and pierced are very intelligent.
2006-12-18 07:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 14:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by vandevanter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋