It's been 6 months my girlfriend told me that she was lesbian and didn't want to be with me anymore even though she still loved me. I was desperately in love with her and than I accepted to do something that maybe no other guy would ever do for a girl: I subjected myself to a surgery to change my sex and turn myself into a girl so she woud have no reason to leave me. Last month the whole procedure was completely done. Last week she just told me that she doens't want to stay with me even after all I did for her. Now I just don't know what to do. I like girls and I don't know if I will ever find another girl who accepts me the way that I look now. The doctor told me the surgery is unreversable. What should I do?
2006-12-18 05:51:34 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, I'd crack a joke about her having your balls in her purse, but that's hitting a bit close to home.
*swish!*
2006-12-18 05:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 4⤊ 4⤋
well, hmmm. When you say procedure you mean you had everything changed right? Because I'm wondering why the doctor would tell you that the surgery is unreversable. As far as surgery goes it doesn't sound like much can be done. I don't think you should have changed yourself for her though. I mean if she loved you enough then it shouldn't have mattered if you were a guy or a girl. The only thing you can do is just get use to the new you and once you feel comfortable with who you are now, you'll find someone who will love the new you.
2006-12-18 05:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, if you are serious, you need to seek serious help and counseling! Forget her, worry about your mental state. Because what you did is not normal. Seriously.
**edit**
I went back and read some of your stuff. You need serious psychiatric help and here is why. Here is one of your last posts:
I'm pregnant of a transvestite and my husband doesn't know. Should I tell him?
I'm married for 6 yeas and it's been 2 years I've been having sex a trany wihtout condoms, today I found out that I'm pregnant. My husband can't have children so I can't tell him the child is his. I don't know what to do. Should I tell him the truth?
And here goes another one:
My boyfriend's been cheating me with a trany but I still love him. Should I break up?
We are together for 5 years and last month I found out he's been dating a trany for 1 year. I'm kinda worried because we always had sex wihout condoms because I thought he was faithful. He always told me he never used condoms in his sexual relations so I suppose he's having unprotected anal sex with the trany too. I don't know what to do. Even knowing that he deceived me I still love him more than ever and I'd like to find a way to fix our relationship. How could I do that?
Sounds to me like your a very confused individual (and a liar) Go seek help. You need it.
2006-12-18 05:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissie 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I feel sorry for u but it was a bad decision, y should u go on to the extent of changing ur sex, now whats done is done, start all anew, it will take time but u just have to find another partner, u have doubts about that, but keep faith things will go well.
2006-12-18 05:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You went too far for another person, and now, unfortunately, you are paying the price. I am truly sorry for you, and there is no easy solution. you must move on with your life, out there you will find someone who will love and excepts you the way you are,
Also, try to get some professional help for your potential emotional issues.
Good Luck.
2006-12-18 05:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should have changed the way you were for somebody because if she couldnt execpt you the first time the chances are she wouldnt the second time. And plus was she really worth loseing your dick over cause now you have to be a lesbein.
2006-12-18 08:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by babyshia23 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be joking you cannot have the surgery after just six months you have to dress as a woman for at least two years have a physic evaluation etc
And you really must be mad to do that
2006-12-18 06:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking? If you were truly a woman then you would know that you need to eat a gallon of chocolate ice cream, watch a movie with Jennifer Lopez in it, and possibly read a paperback with a picture of that butter dude on the cover. I'm sorry but, I dont believe a word you just wrote.
2006-12-18 05:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by BudLt 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
if you cant be a man again,
uhmm.
i would try to find a girl who would accept you.
im sure you can go under the knife again.
i would never have surgery to change who i was.
if the person you love wants you to go under surgery to change who you are...
find someone new.
im sure you will be able to find someone.
dont worry.
keep your chin up :]
i guess you could go after lesbians but i dont know.
id do all i could to be a man again.
good luck.
:]
i hope everything works out.
2006-12-18 05:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sterlinggg. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't really seem to have really looked into all the prose and cons,how were you allowed with out allot of counselings got such a very server procedure,just to get the snip means hours with physiologists trying to talk you out of it,or did you get it done out of the UK
2006-12-18 06:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man/?
I kinda feel sorry for you there. DId you try to get a second opnion already for another doctor? If you did, and still nothing. Don't lose hope, someday, you might find a way to reverse it or just someone who doesn't mind the *thing*.
PS. Your ex's a jerk.
2006-12-21 09:02:19 · answer #11 · answered by justin s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋