Can my mother overruled me?...Serious answers please.!?

Question

I'm 16 1/2 and my bf is 18 1/2. I'll be 17 when my babys born. Its my baby but can my mom be like oh you have to let your siblings see it,play with it, and touch it etc.... when i dont want them to do nothing to it but the parents of it.(me and my bf). Can she overruled me or i can overruled her since its my baby not hers.?

My siblings are retard and very rude. I dont have privacy at all. They thinks they can see my baby whenever they want to,

Answer 1

You really shouldn't have had a baby with your bf at 16. But, you did. Also, your Mother gave life to you-- she has say. Also, she's not asking you to give the baby up for adoption, she is asking that you let your family BE A Family to the baby. Don't push your family away for Pride's sake-- your family is all you have in your life that is permanent.

.

Answer 2

You said that your Sib's are retard...I think you must mean retarded, is that the actual case, or are you saying that because they are younger, self absorbed, or get on your nerves? What I mean is, are they actually mentally delayed/disabled, or not? I was 17 when I had my first child, the next month I turned 18. I am the youngest of five children, and I have many nieces and nephews, so I kind of know what you are feeling here. Usually in a family (a close family) everyone will want to see the baby, hold the baby, and love the baby. Your mother will give you advice on how to raise the child, what has proved to work with you, and your Sib's in her opinion. That being said there really isn't a way to keep her from wanting everyone to get to know the baby. You could leave, ignore her, and try to make it on your own, but that is not only selfish, it is wrong. Unless there are real concerns for the safety of your child keep an open mind. You are young, and while you may think that having a baby means you know how to care for a baby, that usually isn't the case. This may sound harsh, but having a child doesn't mean that you are a parent. BTW, the child I had when I was 17 is now 15, and she is doing great, because while I raised her my way, I listened to my family as well.

Answer 3

This is truly a legal question due to your age. Your boyfriend in some states can still be charged with rape of a minor by your mother. You need to seek legal aid to find out if you live in one of those states. Also some states actually have what is called Grandparents rights which mean your mother can petition the court for visitation or even custody since you are a minor. BUT on the upside if the baby lives with the father from day one and he is on the birth certificate he has final say unless a court deems otherwise because he is an adult (providing of course he is of sound mind). I would contact your local department of Children and Family and ask about free legal aid they give free advice on legal issues such as this. Every state is different. But I will tell you as long as the child lives outside your mother’s home the parents (YOU) have all say unless a court says otherwise. Keep in mind though if your child lives with you, and your mother deems you a child under her care then that baby will fall under her care and rules as well. Your best bet is to make sure the father takes on responsibility till you are 18 if you see he is fit. Also Grandparents cant just force their rights on you (if your state has grandparent rights) they have to go in front of a judge. so until that day, YOUR BABY YOUR RULES!

Answer 4

Technically once you give birth you will become a de facto legal adult. However I wouldn't do a single thing to alienate your family. You're only going to be 17...you're going to need all the help you can get! I'm not being judgmental as I'm a teen mom too but trust me your family will be essential in making everything ok for both you and your daughter. I know that without my family and my fiance's family we never would have made it through this last year and a half. You might be annoyed by your siblings now but they're your family and once you aren't living with them you'll like them more. Good luck!

Answer 5

Why would you not want your siblings to be around the baby? Just establish some ground rules (Wash your hands first, etc.)and never leave the baby unsupervised with them. It sounds like you are trying to get into a power struggle with your mom. Not a good idea since you are under her roof (I assume?) and, I'm willing to bet, she's footing most of your bills! If you wanted total control, you should have waited until you were 18 and living on your own before getting pregnant!

Answer 6

i don't think your mom has a right to tell you what to do with your baby however maybe she just meant that she wanted your siblings and family members to be a part of your baby's life. also if you live at home with her then you should try to be understanding until you move out. i only say that because it is her house and she can make the rules and since you are not 18 and still live at home then she is responsible for you and your baby till you are 18 or move out. good luck and happy holidays=)

Answer 7

not to be rude but if you are living in your moms house and she is pretty much paying all of the bills and such then she does have a say so..every mom is over protective but not to let your siblings near your baby at all that's a little harsh...and be careful because there will be times when you and your BF need your moms help! Don't push her away..she's supporting you! Good luck and if you don't like her rules..get a job and move out sorry to be harsh but it's true!! GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

why would you not want your family envolved with the baby?? remember they want to help and be a part of the baby' life as well... your mother can not tell you what to do with your child... but pushing people away that you may need help from later is not a wise idea.....

You and your b/f can raise the child but let your family be a part of the child's life like playing, talking, and helping out some with the baby...

and you will see that this was the way to be... family is always first and they will always be the ones you can lean on when you have no one else

Answer 9

You are still a baby having a baby.... While you are living under her roof, you should respect her. Now, You can politely ask her and talk to her like a grown adult and let her know that there are boundries for your brother and sister. A baby is not a toy. To me, it sounds like you think it is... a baby is an exciting thing to happen in a family, if your brothers and sisters want to see it, dont be selfish,its your baby in the end... this isnt like it was when your 10 playing house... its real. Think about it.

Answer 10

Wow where to begin........

okay first of all IF you live under her roof then she has some say in the matter......

second of all why did you just waste your life..........I was 21 when I had my daughter and I thought I was young to have her. But 17 you should have waited dear.

but anyway......
She technically has no say in it...it's your baby. BUT if you are living under her roof...then I would let her think she was in charge just till you and your bf move in together.

Your baby is not a puppy and that is what your mom is making it out to be. You have a say because it is your child.......but it would be nice to let your siblings AT LEAST be able to see their niece or nephew.......But that is entirely up to you.