Is my girlfriend cheating on me and is our relationship over?

Question

We live together and I moved out so she can think about what she wants. She keeps telling me how in love she is but our communication over the last year has been rough with us both yelling at each other at times. I think the break is a way of her to finally tell me off even after I apoligized for my ignorance. I've had some time to think it all over but she wants 2 weeks to think on it and decide if we are meant to be. Should I take this as the end of our relationship? We have been together 2yrs. I'm 34 and she is 25. For the last 6 months communication has been rough. We live together but both hate our jobs and the city we live in and dont have many friends in the area we moved to. She has a single friend that always wants her to go out for girls night and party and that causes alot of the problems also. Yesterday was the beginning of the break and she sent me a love you text message yesterday and today. I havent responded. Any ideas or thoughts as she seems confused?

Answer 1

Her behavior sounds exactly what I did so I'll tell you from THAT experience what I really MEANT: I was unhappy not only with my significant other at that time and believe me people sometimes 'pick' fights to use THAT as an excuse to just get away either from you or even ourselves, but the last thing we want is, TO FEEL RESPONSIBLE for anything. I was interested not only in one other person other than my significant other, in fact alot of people were interested in me. The more interesting I erroneously believe I got the more disinteresting my other seemed. In a nutshell, I wanted that however stupid that saying goes my-cake-and-eat-it-too, hence the text messege to just let you know I was alive and seriously, I couldnt have cared less if he responded promptly. All I knew was that ANY response from a caring significant other just fueled me to keep doing what I wanted with little regard for whoever loved, needed, wanted me at that time. It was all about me. Yes we're cheaters and like guys, we'd NEVER tell you. You know how to 'hurt' the kind of girls we are? Let us never hear from you again and make sure we see you with your new girl.

I hope you select my answer as the best one because reading this actually makes me want to find that one I let get away and apologize to him.

Answer 2

Ok. So communication is getting rough. So what. Obviously she loves you. This is what you call the good times and the "bad times."

It is inevitable that sooner or later you guys are going to get on each other's nerves. Sometimes detaching yourself from the hip can help. There seems to be a lot of factors in your lives that give you reason to bicker, and since you have lived together, you know everything about each other already. So, therefore, bickering is the only thing left to do. If what she's wants to do after being temporarily detached makes you uncomfortable, you definitely need to narrow down the why. Then compromise. Remember that she's not a caged animal. She is a person that needs freedom as well as your love and support. She probably needs some away time so you guys can get back to normal and have things to talk about again. If something truly reasonably bothers you, she should respect your feeling and compromise too. If you are worried that she is wandering around the dating scene with her single friend, try finding another couple to hang with. She can hang with the female, while you have someone to watch the game with. That way, your not just sitting at home impatiently waiting and worrying about what she may be doing.

Then, if all goes well, you get to fall back in love.

Answer 3

She does seem confused and maybe just needs some time to think. Maybe she felt smothered a bit and just wanted some space. Give her the space she wants and then go back and ask her if she wants to continue the relationship or not. She is text messaging you just to let you know she is thinking of you and still has feelings for you. Until she decides in the time she asked for, there is little you can do but wait. Dont try to push her as that will only make more yelling and push her away. Allow her the time she has asked to get her head on straight. Good luck!

Answer 4

Send her a text of how you feel. Also include that you are not going to contact her again until the 2 weeks are up. It seems like to me that she wants to know that you will be there. You are a security blanket for her. It what sense I don't know but make sure that you follow her wishes....not contact for 2 weeks. if she asks why tell her because " I am doing as you ask".

Answer 5

I don't like the idea of you two going on a break. It seems like she wants to experience the dating life but she wants you on the backburner for when she gets sick of it. I think you should tell her that either yall are together, or completely broken up..and have her choose. If she chooses the second then move on. Good luck

Answer 6

Women.... it's just like us to confuse you, she's 25 it sounds like she misses the single life, you see when I was 21 i hooked myself in a serious relationship, and was a bitter ***** causse all i wasnted to do is go out with my friends and party and If i met a guy and wanted to hang out with him i could, but being in a relationship didn't allow me to do that.....give her her two weeks and see what she says after that....in the mean time you yourself go and have a good time as well

Answer 7

Respond back and tell her you love her.

Part of the problem is her girlfreind always wanting her to go out and party. When you get together tell her that you are a couple and should do more things together. Keep up the communication

Answer 8

I am going to be honest here and no DRPHIL on you either. Bitter truth.

She’s 25 she is still young without a ring on her hand her options are open to her. She knows this, two years no wedding date. Even though she is young she is expecting something from you. Also you need to learn to fight fairly.

I have never had a fight with my boyfriend the secret is to not yell. If it’s so important and life will end then say your peace, but honestly 90% of fighting is over things that are not important.

She is important to you, if she wasn’t you wouldn’t be here. I will be honest with you hurtful as it might seem. If you want her back your going to have to go after her, she might not say it, but she wants you to go after her, why? It’s all based on animal instincts.

Her friends are they married? DO they have children, homes/ a house? Do you even know what she wants out of life?

I don’t know if she has cheated on you, but that assumption can and will get you in trouble if you ask her. By asking says to her ‘I don’t trust you’. Relationships are based on trust. You need her to know this as well. Don’t pester her either. Set a date and time to meet her, the holidays are coming up as well. Where do you see your life with her in a few years? As your wife mother of your children, no? Then move on. However if you want her to be the one you have to start over and do it right.

Things that break up relationship is money and trust issues. You said You thought she cheated on you? Why that is a presumption, but everyone thinks that remember that, just don’t say it to her. If you can’t stop thinking of her ask to meet her and ask her something simple without spending money. “Do you see yourself in the future married to me with a family?” It’s not asking her to be your wife. It’s simple and honest and then you can know how she feels.

Answer 9

"Love you" is different from saying "I love you". Sounds like she is toying with someone else. Don't respond to her, period. Let her sit and think that she's lost you for good with her silliness. After 2 years, she wants time to think? No...she wants time away from you to date someone else. Trust me. My exboyfriend did the same thing. People who love you don't treat you that way!

Answer 10

This is not enough information for me to give you a good answer. Send me an email and tell me what exactly were you so ignorant about.