my mans mom, the grandmother of my children, is dying. How can I best support him through this?
2006-12-18 05:24:52 · 17 answers · asked by krissy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just went through this in February of 2006. My husbands mother was dying of cancer and died on The 26th of Feb. Mostly the only thing I could do was give him his time and let him work it out. I let him talk about his memories when he wanted and let him be alone when he needed it. Just being there and letting him know your love for him is better and wiser then trying to get him to talk or do anything. Look in your heart of hearts and you will know what to do. Both me and my husband send our prayers hugs of compassion to you and your family at this difficult stretch in your road of life..
2006-12-18 05:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Cannuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him when he needs to talk and try and schedule some time for the both of you. Surely he is putting up a brave front for the children but is hurting very deeply inside. Dont push him though if he does not want to talk. Let him know you are there for him and spend some quality time with him. Maybe ask him about some fond memories he had of growing up with his Mom. Good Luck!
2006-12-18 05:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fellas father passed away recently and i've found that he needed support by me just listening when he did want to talk. Men tend to hold it all inside but if he ever did talk about it, I encouraged the conversation to keep it going. The time that he needed the most support though was some months after the funeral. Everyone else goes back to their normal lives and they are still left with the grief.. this is when I tried to encourage conversations about good times with his father. He was quite difficult & p*ssed off at little things months after so I just tried to put up with a little more than I normally would by not hassling him with questions about what was wrong with him.
2006-12-18 18:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best thing I'd say is just to ask him. We spend entirely too much time wondering how we can support someone in hard times and then either missing the time they needed from us or doing the wrong things. I find it best solved by just asking what can I do to help you through this? or what do yoiu need me to do for you?
2006-12-18 05:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support. Let him talk to you when he needs to. Don't force him to speak about his feelings until he is ready, you will know. Let him come to you, but always be available. Most men are attached to their moms more so than their dads. He will have to go through all the grieving phases so be patient with him and when he gets to the anger phase keep in mind that he is taking it out on you but doesn't mean it. I know, it sucks, but give him your unconditional love and things will work out.
2006-12-18 05:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at times like this bascially all you need to do is be there for him and let him know you are there for him and also show him how much you love him. Time heal sarrow you just have to be patience with him.
2006-12-18 05:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Raynette S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for him and have the grandmother see the kids as much as possible <33
sorry about that that sucks, good luck though
2006-12-18 05:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by Olivia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him grieve and just be there when he needs you to be....give him the room to either open up or be private about his feelings...that is about all you can do given the lack of details here....
2006-12-18 05:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mikey ~ The Defender of Myrth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I cant post any of my question's. I dont know whats going on. As for your question I dont know just be there for him and your kids good luck
2006-12-18 05:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by TheArtistFormalyKnowAsSlavemaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By just being there for him..just being supportive.
2006-12-18 05:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by Smittie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋