I have had this constane headace for the last 4 days and nothing i do will make it go away, i feel really stressed out, its my birthday on friday i will be 22 im dredding it because my dad is already in such and bad mood, and i feel like i have done nothing in my life and i have nothing to look forward too, the only time i go out is to go food shopping, for my mum and dad because my dad is diabled i help my mum, i cant work for reasons of my own so my parents look after me so i feel i owe it to them to help out, but i feel like i have no life of my own i want my own friends and i really would like to have a boyfriend, there is this guy that i really really like and i want to ask him out but if he told me that he had a girlfreind i would be so gutted that im affraid to ask him! i really dont know what to do!
2006-12-18 05:11:02 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
life will get better and just hang in there and happy birthday. if i were i would ask him, you will never know unless you ask
2006-12-18 05:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by bone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow no wonder you have a headache!!
OK you have to put the boy you like on the back burner just now because from the sounds of it you have more important things to deal with first.
Its good that you help your family out because of your Dads disability however you need a life of your own. You really do need to get a job, and if you cant work then why not go to college and do something you are interested in. That way you can get out the house more, meet new friends and start enjoying your life.
You need space from your family and you need to start walking on your own two feet, nobody else can do this for you!!
If you get your life in order then you can go back to this guy you like, bite the bullet and ask him out girl. If he has a girlfriend then at least you have asked and you wont have to keep wondering "what if" all your life. Anyway you may be pleasantly surprised at his answer.
Good luck babe xxx
2006-12-18 13:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st,you need some medication cuz it sounds like you have a migrane. I understand that you feel like you have to help your parents out,but you do deserve to have a life of your own too. Go ask the guy out and if is already seeing some-one then at least you made that attempt. Don't let that one experience stop you from asking other guys either. You should really talk to your parents and let them know how much stress you're under for helping them all the time. Just be calm about the whole thing and hopefully they will understand how you feel. I do wish you lots of luck and I hope it works out for you.
2006-12-18 13:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your streesing yourself out for no reason. Everybody Is supposed to be taking care of each other. Life Is not always going to be like this. Your going to get back on track you just need to stop looking at everything so negatively. Start your days better thinking I want to help out, I want to find some people to hang out with. The more positive you are the more positive things will happen to you. You need to confront this guy and ask him to go out with you. The worst thing that can happen Is already happening, your shutting yourself out of a good life you could be having. If he does have a girlfriend or not interested then move on. Your about to be 22. Your old enough to know that there are millions of guys out there and 1 Is not going to hurt you!!
2006-12-18 13:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it with this guy by the sounds of it (and please dont think i mean to be nasty because i really feel for you) you dont have much to lose.
You are good for helping out your mum but you cant live your life like that. Perhaps you should join a local evening class or social class that way you will meet people. However it is difficult if you are not earning to be able to socialise.
Is there not something that you could do from home to earn a little money or to make life more interesting.
2006-12-18 13:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by jenna p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you need a break the local social services may be able to help with restbite care the headache is caused by stress try talking to your doctor about this. why not join a group of some type or do a night course in college this will help you to meet new people. you could volunteer a day a week in a shop or animal sanctuary and this will get you out as well and ask this guy out if he has a girlfriend no problem find someone new hope this helps
2006-12-18 13:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by julie t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, headaches are often caused by stress. That could be the cause of yours, you sound like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself and others are also pressuring you. But if this headache NEVER goes away (stays all day even if you take tylenol or advil), then it could be more serious. In either case, you should see a doctor without delay. If it is stress related, there are short term medications and long-term stress reducing exercises you can get into. If it is more serious, then you might just save your own life. Please - see your doctor, so you will see birthday no. 23!
2006-12-18 13:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by funwithu_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're still very young, but it seems like you realize you need to make a change soon. First, Relax and enjoy your birthday. Next look into a 'center for independent living.' Make a goal about moving out on your own in ___ many months. I assume you recieve govermental assessts like SSI or SSDI. Look into Subsidized housing. Set goals for where you want to be in 10 yrs and work towards those goals.
and as forthe guy.. well the only way sometime s is you gotta take a chance, put yourself out there, but try notto scare him away.
2006-12-18 13:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you get a part time job? Even just one day a week? You would meet people,have social interaction and something to look forward to.......
Plus a bit of extra money......
As for guys, I think maybe you should try flirting a bit, see how that goes, but honestlt, if you are unhappy with your life, you need to take action yourself, and not sit around asking strangers what to do, or expecting someone else to help you, it's your life, we don't really care THAT much if you waste it, but you only get one, so if I was you I would be seriously thinking about everything going on, and making positive steps to changing things.........
2006-12-18 13:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Headaches are caused from stress, tension and depression. You sound like what you need is some professional help to get you out of the situation that you are in.
There are social groups you can join to meet people in. Get involved in Big-Sisters of America, Their are senior groups that can help out with your parents..
As for this guy you are interested in, he should be the one asking you out, if he hasn't as yet then forget about him and settle on finding a nice person that could take care of you and love you for the type of person you are.
2006-12-18 13:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emma ..happy birthday on your 22 ..Hey only 22 you got plenty of time to do every thing you want ...don't rush now.
let it happen on its own ..you are doing a grand job looking after your parents ..you are much appreciated by your family ..some time things don't seam right because you are in not so good mood ..little stressed out ..it happens to everyone ..me included i have my moments ..we all do ..look on the bright side you are only 22 ..you got plenty of time to sort things out ..you are a diamond for getting your priority's right ...sorry about your headache ..get your blood pressure checked..
take care have a nice one ...lol
2006-12-18 13:50:43 · answer #11 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋